Oh no….I lost the ‘list’!!!


You don’t know what you want” were the words ringing in my ears after speaking to a friend this past week. The words were a bit harsh but he was right. We were talking about relationships and the challenges I was facing finding the One. Have you written your “list” he asked? Off course I did. I wrote the “list” a long time ago.

“The list, for those that don’t know is when a single man or woman writes about the attributes and character of the man or woman they want. It’s a very specific list of things you want.  (Is she tall, short, athletic, adventurous, is he funny, caring and so on?)”

But as I recited to him the things on my list something shocking happened……..There were things I wasn’t sure about anymore!! I was undecided…..! I began to panic, what was I going to do? Was I double minded because if I was the word says, “a double man is unstable in all his ways and he can expect nothing from God”!

But upon further thought I realized why I was unsure. As I have matured and grown in the Lord and met and interacted with a lot of women there are things I have come to appreciate that I never did when I was younger. Upon further thought I came to another conclusion:

If the woman I wrote about all those years ago has changed doesn’t that mean the woman I write about now is going to change as I continue maturing? To take it even further, does it mean its pointless even compiling a list when I don’t even know myself that well?? A list is important, this I understand. It is so important to have an idea of what you want. This is one area where you cannot be clueless! But this is my point; the “list” can’t be all we go by. The “list” is flawed because we as humans are flawed. Only God knows what you really need! It’s okay to have a guide line for what you want. That guide line is the “list” but don’t let it be your final measuring line!

So here I am with an idea of what I want. It is very detailed but at the same time it’s not. There are things I can’t come to a final conclusion about but I am trusting the God who knows me better than anyone else in this world. I don’t have to worry about an incomplete list because God the One who created my wife will bring her to me and she will be everything I expect and even more. I pray she is not exactly as I picture her because that means God has succumbed to my low and flawed view of the “one”! I pray that is not the case. I want the woman He has for me, not the one I have created for myself!

Rolain.

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A note to the busy…….


Do you hear Lady Wisdom calling?

Can you hear Madame Insight raising her voice?

She’s taken her stand at First and Main,

at the busiest intersection.

Right in the city square

where the traffic is the thickest, she shouts,  Proverbs 8:1-3

 

This is a very interesting scripture. Interesting not because she makes a call but where she makes the call. She could of gone to any place and made the call to anyone but the scripture says,

 

“She has taken her stand at First and Main,

at the busiest intersection.

Right in the city square

where the traffic is the thickest, she shouts,

 

It’s so busy that she has to raise her voice. She actually has to shout to get the people’s attention! That got me to think. What were the people doing that she had to shout??? Were they really that busy? I started bringing up possible scenarios……

– A man had to get to the other part of town so he could deliver a package and get paid.

– A mom had to take her kids to school and was running late

– A young man had to meet someone who would fund his business

– A parent had to  rush to the hospital because his child was involved in an accident

– A family had to rush to the airport or they would miss their flight

and so on and so on………… Whatever the reason is for the busyness, they forgot about wisdom because she had to make the call. If they were operating in wisdom in their busyness wisdom would of kept silent but that was not the case.

Doesn’t that describe the kind of world we live in today? Everyone is just so busy today. Too busy to form real relationships. Too busy to stop and care for someone. Too busy to love. Too busy to stop and take time with their children. Too busy to stop and look at their lives and make changes. Too busy to stop and reflect.

Stop! Take some time to listen, someone pretty important is calling. And she is calling you! Will you heed her call or are you just too busy? It’s not wrong to be busy but when that busyness stops you from listening to the voice of wisdom then you have a problem. That is my challenge!

Rolain

 

What you need to know about prayer…….


I was reading my word when a few scriptures jumped out at me. The scriptures were talking about prayer and I was in desperate need of the reminder, I just didn’t know it yet! Prayer is so powerful. We are nothing without prayer. Let us look at the first scripture:

1. In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God for instance without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part. Matthew 6:14-15

This scripture just confirms what I have been taught about prayer. We have a part to play in prayer!

For example, if you are praying to God to live a long and healthy life, are you doing the things that will help you live healthier like exercising, eating healthy and so on. Is it not crazy to pray to live a long healthy life when you are living a life that totally jeopardizes your health? You smoke, drink, eat junk every single day, don’t exercise but at the same time you pray for a long healthy life! Are you getting the picture? This is just is one example though. When we pray we should ask God to show us what our part in whatever we are praying about is. God doesn’t want you to do everything. He wants you to do your part as a declaration of where your faith is at!

Your friend may be sick and your part could be to send them a get well card or encourage them. So pray and go do what God shows you to do.

I believed God wanted me to go on music tours but I had no money so I prayed but my part in all of this was to go and ask people for help. I had to step out and go ask for help. What is your part in what you are praying?

2. Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need, this isn’t a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. Matthew 7:7-11

Does this need any further explanation? Be direct with God. I struggled with this because I thought something’s were just too much for God. “What if it’s not what God wants” is what I asked myself. This was a very challenging word indeed! Because of circumstances and sin and other things I am not direct in prayer but God wants us to be direct! We don’t need to beat around the bush. We need to be bold as we come to Him.

And those are the two things I wanted to share about prayer……

 

The weakest link.


Today was a real eye opener for me. We have been teaching the kids about praise and worship for two weeks and today was the last week of the teaching. God really came down and touched the kids and I will boldly say we had a tangible manifestation of God’s presence. Words fail to express how amazing the service was.

 

But this was the eye opener for me – I never prepared sufficiently for the service. It was important for me to have planned because I am the one who decided on having a time in the year where we have a service specifically dedicated to teaching our kids the importance of praise and worship. I have been doing this for 6years and this was the 7th. But like I said, I did not plan sufficiently. I was not prayed up enough. I was not ready for today. I had feelings to deal with as well. I felt guilty for the sin I committed through out the week and thought it inappropriate to ask God for His help. I was not ready on all levels.

I realized how in this relationship I am the weakest link. I haven’t brought anything to the table. My contribution to this relationship is nothing…..I am the weakest link but unlike the game where the weakest link gets eliminated, God still works with me. He doesn’t eliminate me but bestows me with His grace. He covers my faults with His amazing grace and mercy. I was blown away today because God’s presence came down and touched the kids not because I had been prepared or prayed up, or because I was smart enough but He used me in spite of that! ! And thinking about that I realize how that happens everyday. We are the weakest link in our relationship with God but He stays with us. He still gives us a purpose that is bigger than we can imagine and loves us. He doesn’t tell us We are useless but instead makes us useful…….

Even though you are the weakest link in your relationship with God He will never leave. You will not be eliminated. It’s because you are weak that He will use you. You will do incredible things in your weak state because He will cover you. He will give you the wisdom you need, the strength you need……thank God for that. He is amazing.

Rolain

A story about a kite, love and wisdom!!!


 

This is a story about a kite. A kite is born to fly. A kite was not made to be grounded. But a kite cannot fly without the string attached to it.

A kite may wonder why it has a string attached to it. At times it feels like the string is holding it down. It could fly much higher without it. But we know the truth. Without the string the kite would crash. Without the string attached to it the kite would not be able to take off in the first place. The kite is nothing without the string. The two go hand in hand.

This story is really about how we are supposed to use wisdom in our relationships. The kite symbolizes love. We were created to love. When you see her or you see him love arises. In a relationship emotions run high and that is natural but to make a relationship work love will not be enough. You need wisdom. Wisdom is the string attached to the kite. It is wisdom that keeps love in check. Without the “string” the “kite” would crash. It’s OK to fall in love. It’s OK to feel the emotion of love but it needs something more, wisdom. A lot of relationships have failed because people have let emotions guide them.
Men, when getting into a relationship don’t let emotion be the only thing that guides you. Use wisdom. Emotions will come, strong emotions! And that’s great…..it’s natural!
Just remember to use wisdom as well. Ladies, use wisdom as well. Don’t get carried away in the emotion but ask God for wisdom. Let wisdom guide your relationship as well.
And that is the story about a kite, love and wisdom…..    🙂
Rolain.

How the wars in your life are won!


THOUGHT OF THE DAY.

 

We all have wars to fight. We cannot run away from battles. They are a part of life but how are we to deal with them?

How do we become victorious? We find the answer in the book of Samuel.

 

David strengthened himself with trust in his God. He ordered Abiathar the priest, son of Ahimelech, Bring me

the Ephod so I can consult God. Abiathar brought it to David. 

Then David prayed to God, Shall I go after these raiders? Can I catch them? 

The answer came, go after them! Yes, you’ll catch them! Yes, you’ll make the rescue! 

1 Samuel 30: 6-8

 

When the Philistines got word that David had been made king over all Israel, they came on the hunt for him.

David heard of it and went down to the stronghold. When the Philistines arrived, they deployed their forces in Rephaim Valley. 

Then David prayed to God: “Shall I go up and fight the Philistines? Will you help me beat them? 

Go up, “God replied. Count on me. I’ll help you beat them.”

2 Samuel 5:17-20

 

Later there was a repeat performance. The Philistines came up again and deployed their troops in the Rephaim

Valley. David again prayed to God.

This time God said, don’t attack them head-on. Instead, circle around behind them and ambush them from the grove

of sacred trees. When you hear the sound of shuffling in the trees, get ready to move out. It’s a signal that God is going

ahead of you to smash the Philistine camp.

2 Samuel 5:22– 24

 

Time and time again we see this pattern throughout scripture. Whoever it was, they always sought The Lord first.

As we face the battles that come our way we need to realize we can come to God. He is our Defender and He will fight for us.

The mistake we make is we think we can do it on our own. But it’s not true!!!! We are not strong enough, and smart enough. We need

Gods help. He is the One who will deliver us. I have tried at times fight on my own only to fail. David as great as he was,

and as great as an army he commanded always sought The Lord first. He didn’t rely on his own strength and on the strength of his mighty men.

 

Who are you relying on when you go to war?

Is it the weapons you possess or the connections you have or the family you come from or the riches you possess?

The experience you have, the intellect you possess????

That means nothing if you don’t seek The Lord. You will fail if you go out alone!!!

Rely on The Lord when you go to war! Rely on God when you face the giants in your life!

 

Rolain.

The different faces of Wisdom.


If you have been following my blog for a while you will know that one of my deepest desires is to walk in true wisdom. You will know how much I love wisdom and you will also know I believe it is the key to real living. If you didn’t know all that now you do.   🙂

But now I want to go deeper. The wisdom of God is deep. There is no argument there but what I would like to do is show you a few more faces of wisdom. We may know them but just ignored them because we didn’t know what they were or who they belonged to.                                 Proverbs 2 (Message) gives us some insight into what these other faces are.

“Tune your ears to the world of Wisdom; set your heart on a life of understanding.                                                                                                                        That’s right – if you make Insight your priority, and won’t take no for an answer, searching for it like                                                                                        a prospector panning for gold, like an adventurer on a treasure hunt, Believe me, before you know it Fear-of-God will be yours;”

With wisdom comes understanding – another face of wisdom. Understanding or in other words Insight. (please note, these two words, understanding and insight have different meanings but still similar in a lot of ways. I would love to hear what you understand about those two words).When you have Understanding, Insight then you are walking in wisdom! Do you have Insight?

“Believe me, before you know it Fear-of-God will be yours; you’ll have come upon the Knowledge of God.                                                                                  And here’s why: God gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding.                                                                                                      He’s a rich mine of Common Sense for those who live well, “

Another face of wisdom is Common Sense. Just because you have the Holy Spirit doesn’t mean you should throw common sense out of the window. Common Sense is a form of wisdom. There will be times when you won’t know which path to take and when that time comes use common sense. Common sense is very practical and it will save you from a whole lot of confusion. Read this,

Lady Wisdom will be your close friend, and Brother Knowledge your pleasant companion. Good sense will scout ahead for danger, Insight will keep an eye out for you. They’ll keep you from making wrong turns, or following the bad directions”

Let’s just recap on the different faces of Wisdom that we have looked at.

– Understanding/Insight

– Common Sense

– Knowledge (I didn’t expound on it because I think it’s self explanatory)

Like I said in the beginning,Wisdom is the key to a successful life but we need to walk in the different facets of wisdom. We need to learn what they are and my hope is this post has helped in that regard.

“It’s through me, Lady Wisdom, that your life deepens, and the years of your life ripen. Proverbs 9. (Message)

Rolain

What our lives look like………


THOUGHT OF THE DAY

I love the vivid pictures the word of God paints of our lives…….

This is just one of those pictures,

The lives of good people are brightly lit streets;

 

The lives of the wicked are dark alleys.

 

The lives of good people are brightly lit streets; the lives of the wicked are dark alleys.  Proverbs 13:9

Rolain.

 

 

He stands with you!


God smashes the pretensions of the arrogant;

He stands with those who have no standing.  Proverbs 15: 25

I have sinned and I have no grounds to expect a blessing. I have no grounds to get help! What grounds do I have to expect grace??? Or what grounds do I have to expect forgiveness??? There is nothing as Rolain, that I can stand on, completely nothing…..!!!!!

I am guilty. I deserve to die, abandoned and disregarded. I deserve to be judged harshly. Is this not the case for all mankind???
But the word of God says, He stands with those who have no standing.” When you have no grounds to stand before God, He stands with you! Such a powerful revelation. It’s all because of His grace, entirely dependant on His grace, there is not a single thing you can add! He stands on your behalf not because you got what it takes but because of His grace……..Selah! How I needed to hear that today!

He stands with me when He clearly knows I am faulty!! He knows I have nothing to show, no strength to boast about, no wisdom to brag about. He knows I have nothing and yet He stands with me.

He stands with you!

“Scrub away my guilt, 
Soak away my sins in Your laundry. 
I know how bad I’ve been; 
my sins are staring me down. 
You’re the One I’ve violated, 
and You’ve seen it all, seen the full extent of my evil. 
You have all the facts before You; 
whatever You decide about me is fair. 
Psalm 51: 2-6

Today, know that He stands with you and also know He is the only One who has seen the full extent of our evil and yet He extends grace to us……He doesn’t shrink back when He sees our sin. He stands by us never to forsake us. HE STANDS BY US…..
Thank You Lord! Such amazing grace……..

Rolain