The problem with being a virgin….!!!


It’s being a while since I have written about my

journey, my journey of singleness! It’s an important

season and we should give it the credit it deserves.

I am writing on singleness because there has been

something I have been wrestling with. I have been

wrestling with the significance of my virginity in the scope

of singleness.

 

For ages we have been told to wait, “don’t have sex

before marriage.” That is all good advise and that is not

the issue. The issue I have is when we are told we will get

God’s best if we keep ourselves!!! “You will get God’s best

if you don’t have sex and don’t date until you find the One.”

Before I carry on I want to make something very clear.

I have kept myself, I am a virgin, I haven’t dated yet and

years ago that was my pride and glory! I held that up

to everyone and even to God. I was going to get the best

because I was pure, I kept myself! But I was wrong.

The advise we have been getting is incomplete.

As the years go by I realize more and more

that the woman God has for me will not be given to me

because of what I have done, but because of His grace.

She will be a gift!

I don’t want to get anything based on my

performance because the truth of the matter is I would

not get anything! God looks at the

heart and my heart is sinful. I may not have slept around

but I have sinned incredibly in my heart!!

 

To be honest with you, I don’t deserve God’s best. I have let

Him down so much. How can I stand before Him holding

up MY version of purity (filthy rags) and with pride say,

“God give me your best”….!!!! It doesn’t work like that!

Don’t get caught up in law (I kept myself so I want this

kind of woman or this kind of man)

God is looking at your heart. He wants to give you the

best because He loves you not because you did this or

did that.

 

But if you have kept yourself please understand that I am

not attacking you. I want you to see that God will give you

the best because that is the kind of God He is.  Look at what the word says,

 

For God has not called us to impurity but to consecration

[to dedicate ourselves to the most thorough purity].

1 Thessalonians 4:7

 

The word says we should DEDICATE ourselves! That is

such a strong word. We dedicate ourselves to purity

because we want to honor God in our hearts of hearts!

We dedicate ourselves to purity because we love Him

with every fiber of our being.

When David committed sexual sin with Bathsheba he

ran to God. His heart was torn at what he had done.

But it was never about “I am a man after God’s heart”!

He saw himself as a man under God’s grace. He fought

to stay humble in his own eyes.

Don’t get caught up in the law side of things. We don’t

deserve anything from God to be honest. All the “good”

we have done is like filthy rags.

 

If God has someone out there for me it will be because He

loves me. And on my wedding day the focus won’t be on how

many years I kept myself, or how I never dated and so on but

the focus will be on God’s amazing grace and love.

It will be about how much God loved me a sinful man that He still

went ahead and gave me His best even though I didn’t deserve it!

It will be a day of praise

to Him. A day where people give Him the glory…….

I will have nothing else to stand on but His goodness

and grace and that is the way it should always be!

 

For those of you who think you have sinned so much that

you don’t deserve God’s best know this:

God loves you. He is a good God and He wants you to run

to Him. He knows what you have done but He wants to you

to trust Him. He has someone special for you.

Don’t believe the lie that there is no one for you. The lie

that says you have sinned too much.

The lie that says God can’t forgive you.

Just know, there is hope for you!

He has a plan for you.

 

God is so good. I think about all He does for me and

I thank Him. I have nothing to say. I am speechless.

I simply wait for His gifts and blessing that I didn’t

deserve or orchestrate. I do have a part to play but it

will not take away from ALL that God does for me.

Be encouraged in your season of singleness. God is

with you in it.

Have a great weekend everyone!

 

Rolain

 

 

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The truth behind God’s plan for you.


God has a plan for you! That is a fact…… It’s beyond anything you

could ever comprehend.
However, as it is written: “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived” — the things God has prepared for those who love him— these are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit. The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭2‬:‭9-10‬ NIV)
Today, I would like to challenge you to pursue the plans God has for

you.

Don’t believe the lie that you are just a statistic! You are more than

a number! You are important!

But this is the thing, His plans for you are not like anything you have

ever known!

Let me show you what I mean:

Mary.
Now in the sixth month [after that], the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a town of Galilee named Nazareth, To a girl never having been married and a virgin engaged to be married to a man whose name was Joseph, a descendant of the house of David; and the virgin’s name was Mary. And he came to her and said, Hail, O favored one [endued with grace]! The Lord is with you! Blessed (favored of God) are you before all other women!

And listen! You will become pregnant and will give birth to a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus.

And Mary said to the angel, How can this be, since I have no [intimacy with any man as a] husband? (‭Luke‬ ‭1‬:‭26-28, 31, 34‬ AMP)
Gideon
And the Angel of the Lord appeared to him and said to him, The Lord is with you, you mighty man of [fearless] courage.

The Lord turned to him and said, Go in this your might, and you shall save Israel from the hand of Midian. Have I not sent you? Gideon said to Him, Oh Lord, how can I deliver Israel? Behold, my clan is the poorest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my father’s house. (‭Judges‬ ‭6‬:‭12, 14-15‬ AMP)
Jeremiah
Then the word of the Lord came to me [Jeremiah], saying, Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] approved of you [as My chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations. [Exod. 33:12; Isa. 49:1, 5; Rom. 8:29.] Then said I, Ah, Lord God! Behold, I cannot speak, for I am only a youth. [Exod. 4:10; 6:12, 30; I Kings 3:7.] But the Lord said to me, Say not, I am only a youth; for you shall go to all to whom I shall send you, and whatever I command you, you shall speak. (‭Jeremiah‬ ‭1‬:‭4-7‬ AMP)

 

Moses
And the Lord said, I have surely seen the affliction of My people who are in Egypt, and have heard their cry because of their taskmasters and oppressors; for I know their sorrows and sufferings and trials. And I have come down to deliver them out of the hand and power of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land to a land good and large, a land flowing with milk and honey [a land of plenty]–to the place of the Canaanite, the Hittite, the Amorite, the Perizzite, the Hivite, and the Jebusite.

Come now therefore, and I will send you to Pharaoh, that you may bring forth My people, the Israelites, out of Egypt. And Moses said to God, Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt? (‭Exodus‬ ‭3‬:‭7-8, 10-11‬ AMP)
It seems to me like God always called people to something much

bigger than themselves! His plan for their lives always required them

to stretch their faith because it could not be accomplished in their own

strength! God’s plan for them always seemed impossible!

One thing is clear, we need God! We will need

to put our entire hope in Him if we are going to have any sort of

chance.

Believe Him for the impossible! Believe Him to do what only He can

do.

He wants us to believe in Him. But more than that He wants to show

Himself strong in our lives. He wants us to know as we trust Him,

He will come through for us……

By faith begin to declare what He reveals to you.

It may seem like the odds are against you but speak up, believe God!

It may seem like the finances and resources are not available but

believe!

The roads to your destiny may appear closed but believe God!

You may look at what is in your hand and think, “I don’t have what

it takes” just believe God!!

When it comes to purpose it’s not about how much you know, how

intelligent you are, where you were born, how strong you are, who you

know, how rich you are and so on!

It’s about your faith!!

Do you have faith in God??

Do you believe He can do the impossible in your life?

That’s what matters…..

He responds to your faith,

not fear or doubt.

He will respond to someone who will trust Him with all

that is in him. He will respond to someone who will not be moved

by what is happening around him.
The enemy is always trying to keep you from seeing the truth.

He wants you to see the negative. He wants you discouraged.

He wants you to lose hope. He doesn’t want you to know God

has a plan for you!

He hates God’s plan for you.

No matter what you go through, hardships you encounter, don’t

ever forget that God has a plan for you. Just because you are

having a bad day and nothing seems to be happening doesn’t

mean you don’t have a purpose.

Pursue the dream God has given you!

Rolain