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“We must live in the Holy Spirit and follow after Him. So may we never be arrogant,
or look down on another, for each of us is an original.
We must forsake all jealousy that diminishes the value of others.
Galatians 5:25, 26
“each of us is an original”
Is this not where the problem’s start, when we compare ourselves to others? Trying to be someone
else is just going to make things worse for you. Jealousy, arrogance, dis-contentedness, frustration and a
whole lot more stem from trying to be someone else.
The word is clear, you are an original!
Let’s look at another scripture;
“You formed my innermost being, shaping my delicate inside and my intricate outside, and wove them
together in my mother’s womb.
I thank You, God, for making me so mysteriously complex!”
Psalm 139:13, 14 (TPT)
We are handsome/beautiful not because we are made like another person but because we are unique.
There is no one on this planet like you and me and that’s a great thing. You are one of a kind.
You are made in the image of YAH!
But the world has created a standard of what beauty should be. It has created a picture of what
handsomeness should be and we have bought into it. Not only do we use that measure on others, but
we use it on ourselves. The standard has been reinforced for so long that we don’t know anything else.
We hate and destroy ourselves because of it.
I was that person I am describing. Through a series of unfortunate events (abuse, divorce of parents, stuttering)
I hated me. The enemy had done a great job of destroying any good picture I had of myself. There was not a
single trace of self-esteem I could hold on to. I was my own worst enemy. Like I said, I hated me and envied
other people. How I wanted to be someone else.
But when the Lord saved me He changed all that. He showed me I was unique and that was good.
It took a lot of years to get here but He did it. He changed the old picture with a new one. A better picture!
You are an original! Don’t let people dictate who you should be. Don’t let the media, your peers and
anyone else for that matter dictate your worthiness. If it’s not based on the word don’t give it any
credence. What YAH says about you should be your standard period!
When we live by his truth, then no one is a threat and there is no reason to change ourselves so we can
be like that actor, musician or whoever we are trying to be currently.
We can be confident in who YAH made us to be. And that’s how He wants us live.
ACT ON IT – Change the way you speak to yourself. Be your biggest fan. Exhort & encourage
yourself, speak YAH”s word over your life.
There is a way to speak to yourself when you mess up without diminishing your value. Find ways of doing
Find two scriptures you can hold on to that talk about your value.
Bless you friends.
As humans we crave applause, attention and acceptance. We
want to be validated but how far will we go to get it?
As I talk about validation I really need to talk about self esteem
because in my eyes these two things are linked closely together.
When we esteem ourselves highly the less we look to man to
One of my mentor’s described self esteem this way, self esteem
is your estimation of your own worth!
How much value do you place on yourself?
Do you esteem yourself highly?
People may have their own opinions about
you but you should value yourself highly. You should be your
biggest fan no matter what.
But what should your estimation be based off? What is your
The word of God should be your measure!
God knows the truth about you so seek out what He says about
His word has so much amazing truths to declare to you about you….
Be real about your shortcomings but be wise how you approach
them. Tearing yourself down is probably doing more
damage than people’s negative words to you!
So like I said, be honest with yourself. When you make a mistake
admit it but correct yourself in a way that still
maintains your value. I was really bad at doing this. I used to tear
myself down badly. I thought that was the right thing to do
but I was wrong. No matter how wrong I am God would NEVER
tear me down so why do I think it’s okay??
We all sin so it’s natural to speak negative. We don’t need to put
much effort into speaking and thinking
negatively. It’s hard to NOT speak negatively. It’s hard to NOT
gossip. It’s hard to NOT think negatively.
We have to be very intentional and deliberate about being positive
and encouraging and we need help!
We need affirmation, we need encouragement, we need support but
is that the main drive behind everything we do?
“But when He was in Jerusalem during the Passover Feast, many
believed in His name [identified themselves with His party] after
seeing His signs (wonders, miracles) which He was doing.
But Jesus [for His part] did not trust Himself to them, because
He knew all [men];
And He did not need anyone to bear witness concerning man
[needed no evidence from anyone about men], for He Himself
knew what was in human nature. [He could read men’s hearts.]”
Jesus didn’t seek validation from man. He was content because
God validated Him!
“As soon as Jesus was baptized, He went up out of the water.
At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of
God descending like a dove and alighting on Him.
And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love;
with Him I am well pleased.”
Matthew 3:16, 17
What just happened there? Jesus was being validated!
He wasn’t looking for applause or encouragement from man,
He came to accomplish the mission He was given by God!
We need to be careful when it comes to who we look to for
Man never created you, God did so He is the only one qualified
to tell you who you really are.
Your best friend may know you better than the average person
but that doesn’t mean they know the real you.
It may be argued that your family knows you best but it’s just
not true. They know you better than anyone else but they still
don’t know the real you.
God is the only One who knows you in and out!
You can’t even trust your own assessment of who you really
are because once again, you didn’t create you, God did! So stop
with the “this is the way I am” statements because your
assessment is not 100% accurate.
Think about a house for a minute. Let’s say you are selling it.
It would be crazy asking a friend or random
stranger to tell you what the value of the house is. You have to go
to the real estate agency to get an accurate value.
Stop letting people tell you what your value is.
Today you have an opportunity to make a decision.
Just because someone sees you one way doesn’t mean that’s
who you are. (that’s really good news!!)
That’s the way they see you and not the way God sees you.
Because we are flawed we see in part. No one sees perfectly,
just God, remember that.
You don’t have to confine yourself to the perceptions of others.
You can break out of that.
You can decide to be the person God has created you to be. Let
Him show you who you really are. I believe there is so much to
still discover about ourselves. If we stop at, “this is the way I am” or
believe someone’s assessment of who we are then we limit
ourselves. If God really created us (which He did) surely there is
Surely there is more to us than what people see? !!!!
And on that note I will stop here.
If you are struggling with a low self esteem and you need to talk to someone click on the
Bless you friends!
God is a giving God and in His spirit of giving He has blessed us with relationships. How do you view the relationships God has given you? God created relationships for a purpose. God is a relational God. He knows the importance of relationships. Without relationships we lose a very vital part of ourselves. We need relationships, we cannot do without them.
In the beginning when God created Adam everything was perfect. (Genesis 1:31)
He said everything was very good but notice what He says about Adam, “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18).
It is interesting to me that God created man to have a relationship with Him but He said that Adam was alone!!!
God met with with Adam on a daily basis but He still created Eve!!?? Why? Did God make Adam with a defect??
No, He didn’t. He knew exactly what He was doing.
We were created to have a relationship with God and at the same time we were created for each other!!
With that in mind, how much value do you place on your relationships? I have been taught that relationships are very important. We should not take them for granted because they complete us. There is a reason that you know the people you know from the prominent to the not so prominent.
God brought those people into your life for a reason. You may not understand it but know that God has a plan.
The enemy will try anything to break the relationships in your life. He will use things like familiarity, pride, envy and so on to get in the way. Don’t let him take one of God’s most precious gifts to you, relationships and destroy it. Refuse to be familiar with the relationships God has given you. Stop comparing yourself to your friend. Stop looking down on the people you know that don’t have what you have. Stop envying the friends in your life who have more than you. How will you be there for them if you got all those negative things against them? How will God”s plan for your life and their lives come to pass if we have all these negative attitudes?
Remember, the enemy will try everything he can to destroy your relationships. He will even bring the wrong kind of people into your life to poison you, to tear you down, and to corrupt you. Understand that if relationships are vital to your growth then the wrong relationships can destroy you!!!
Let us be people who take the people God has put in our lives seriously. They are all important to your purpose even if you cannot see it. Let us honor God in our relationships. God bless.