What is the real cost of a negative word??


“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips

comes to ruin.”

Proverbs 13:3

 

In my previous post I spoke about trusting God in spite of the circumstances

that surround us on a daily basis. . But there is something

we need to be aware of that can quickly stifle God’s work in our lives. And

that is to do with the words we speak.

The thing is this, we know the power of our words. There is so much teaching

in the word about the power of our words. The understanding is there but we

need to do it more and more.

 

It’s NOT okay to speak negatively once in a while. Every time we are reckless with our

words something happens! This life is war friends and we can’t afford to speak death,

even if it’s once in a while. It’s not okay to speak negatively even if everyone is doing it.

 

Everyone at work may be talking about the boss but it’s not okay for you to join in

with them.

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

 

Things may be falling apart in the country you living in and “everyone” is tearing down

the government with their words but once again, it’s not okay to join in and tear them down

with your words.

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

 

Your friends may be gossiping about someone but it’s not okay to join in with them.

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

 

We need to step up our vigilance with the words we speak.

Our words will make a way for God to do great things in our lives or stop His

miracles dead in their tracks!

How can YAH move on your behalf if you always talking about how there is no

way for you and your family?

He can’t move on your behalf if you telling everyone how doomed you are, how you

will always to struggle to pay school fees, and so on!

 

I am not saying don’t talk about the difficult things you face. Storms are a

part of life on this earth. Speak about the problem but remember to speak

about the God who saves. Speak about the God who delivers,

about the God who answers prayer.

The focus should be on the God who will carry us through whatever comes

our way and and not on the problems!

Our conversations need to change for sure if we are going to see change.

Let’s look at one more scripture.

 

“Who is the man who desires life,

and loves many days, that he may

see good?

Psalm 34:12

 

I don’t know about you but I desire life, and I want to live long

to see good.

The author mentions a few things we need to do

if we are to have life, and have long life.

 

We are to depart from evil and do good;

seek peace and pursue it. (Psalm 34:14)

 

But look at what’s at the top of that list,

 

“Keep your tongue from evil,

and your lips from speaking deceit.”

Psalm 34:13

 

Like I said before, we are at war.

We can’t let the hard things we face suck out every trace of faith in our words.

It’s the faith in our words that YAH responds to.

That’s what opens doors, that’s what makes a way for YAH to move in our lives!

 

This is a challenge to us all,

 

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips

comes to ruin.”

Proverbs 13:3

 

Bless you friends….

 

Rolain

 

 

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Staying pure in your singleness!


I have been reading a book called “Hero” written by Fred Stoeker. It has been a Godsend. It has really challenged me concerning my purity! This is not a review of the book. I want to encourage you to read it if you are single especially if you are a man! It is up there with books like “Boy meets girl”, and “I kissed dating goodbye” by Joshua Harris. (I am biased towards Joshua Harris because I am still to find a book on dating I have enjoyed as much as his books!)

But this is why I am writing this post, because I HAVE found a book that is as good as or even better than the books I have read! As I read “Hero” purity was and is on my mind. Do we really understand what purity is in the context of life and relationships??

The first thought that came to mind was singleness. What is God’s purpose for singleness? Why does He allow us to go through a season of singleness? Singleness is not a time of nothing! It is not the “trailer before the movie”! God has specific purposes and plans for us in our season of singleness! After reading “Hero” I am convinced one of those purposes is to understand what purity is and walk in that understanding!

After reading “Hero” I made a decision:

I will fight for my sexual purity with all that I have! I will not allow the enemy to take it away through his deception and lies! It is my responsibility as a man to take up my sword and fight for my purity! It’s a gift from God which honors Him and will bless my wife! I will not wait for someone else down the line in my family who is more disciplined and who loves God more to fight this fight because I am weak! It stops here….. I will fight for the future generations! I am the one God has called to fight this giant and strike down with His help of course!

Purity is more than abstaining from sex before you get married! Let me show you what I think it is now:

  1. It is about watching what you watch! Stop watching those illicit movies! Pornography has to go! What are you watching?

I DICTATED a covenant (an agreement) to my eyes; how then could I look [lustfully] upon a girl? Job 31:1

Job had to make a covenant with his eyes so he could stay pure and we need to do the same! When it comes to purity we can’t play games! It’s a war against anything and everything that will threaten it.

 

  1. For the weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood], but they are mighty before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds, [inasmuch as we] refute arguments and theories and reasoning’s and every proud and lofty thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).  2 Corinthians 10:4-5

Being able to control your thoughts is what purity is all about. After reading “Hero” I realized I had mindsets and thoughts I had adopted from the media which were wrong and not biblical. They had to be torn down and that process is still happening! Bring thoughts that have exalted themselves against Christ.

 

  1. I have addressed what you should do with your eyes and your mind. Purity means making a covenant with your eyes by watching what you watch. It is being careful what you think about. Every thought must be brought captive to the obedience of Christ. The next thing is watching what you say.

A man’s [moral] self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequences of his words he must be satisfied [whether good or evil]. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life] Proverbs 18:20-21

Put away from you false and dishonest speech, and willful and contrary talk put far from you. Proverbs 4:24

What’s the point if you have decided to watch what you watch and watch what enters your mind when you have a filthy mouth so to speak? It doesn’t add up. Life and death are in the power of the tongue so are you using it to give life or are you killing with that tongue of yours???? Being pure means being able to control how you speak, it means dispensing life with your words!

 

This is the final point:

Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flows the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23

Guard your heart with all that you have! If your heart gets corrupted you will find yourself in a whole heap of trouble! How do you guard your heart?

You guard it by analyzing everything you allow. Everything should be tested. Don’t believe everything, don’t listen to everyone, measure everything according to the word of God! Is the heart pure?? I don’t know! But the one thing we can do is guard it.

 

It looks like there is a lot of work to do in the season of singleness!  It’s an important season of your life. Use the time you have wisely! You won’t be single forever. That is what I think purity is now and that is all thanks to “Hero” the book I read. As I read it purity began to become clear to me! It was then that it dawned on me we have a lot of work to do in our singleness! I hope you will get a copy of the book if you haven’t read it. With that said, please have a great weekend!

Rolain