He was with her!!!!!


(This is a special post in honor of Women’s Day.)

 

In the last week of January we had a men’s conference. We

had a great time of worship and fellowship. As great as that was

that is not what stood out for me. The word our pastor preached

really drove home the importance of the mission and assignment

God has given us men. It was a message that challenged me to

the core. As men we have a huge responsibility that must not be

taken lightly. (don’t worry ladies, it will all make sense in a bit) !!

 

I would like to share a very familiar passage of scripture:

 

“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food

and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom,

she took some and ate it.

She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.”

Genesis 3:6

 

Did you see that? I certainly didn’t the first time I was shown.

Eve took a bite of the fruit (not an apple as some people think)

then gave it to Adam who was with her…..

Adam was with her when Eve was being tempted!!!

Why didn’t he stop the enemy?? Who knows! Maybe he froze,

maybe he didn’t know what to do but the fact remains, he was

supposed to protect Eve and he didn’t. Things would of been

much different if he did so!

 

And look at how crafty the enemy was. he knew God’s order

and protocol. He knew man was the head, the cover but

instead of attacking him, he went to Eve!

 

Let me pause here for a bit and say this, men and women are

equal in value. Man is not better than woman.

But what the enemy has done is, he has got us to focus on the

wrong thing. The issue is not if women can do what men can

do and who is better at everything. For centuries men and

women have been trying to prove who is better. From the

time we start walking we are pitted against each other.

What an embarrasement for a guy if a girl beats him!

I would love to tell you how I was beaten by a girl in a chilli

eating competition but I will have to put that on hold!

I never lived that down for quite a while especially when I

considered myself the chilli master!   🙂    Anyway………..

 

If we have been thinking like that then we have been deceived. The

real issue is about what God had in mind when He created man and

women because He had a clear idea.

God made man and women in His image and we all know that

there is no part of God that is weak or useless, but as men we

have this idea that women are weak, and that they are meant

to be slaves and do our every bidding. They are not encouraged to

pursue the call of God on their lives and so on…

God has a purpose for men and He has a purpose for women!

God made man to be the head. To lead their family, to guide

them and protect.

This is what God says about His purpose for women,

 

“Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficent, satisfactory)

that the man should be alone;

I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary)

for him.

Genesis 2:18

 

This verse has been misundertood so much but we really need

to take the time to study it and even ask God to show us what

He intended in the very beginning. God didn’t create her to be

your own personal slave! (are you kidding me??)

There is so much more, and remember, women are a very

specific expression of God! To understand Him better, He made

women!

Let’s keep moving…..

 

When we read Genesis 3 again it’s interesting to note that

when Eve took a bite of the fruit, nothing happened!

 

When the women saw that the fruit of the tree was good

for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining

wisdom, she took some and ate it.

It’s only when she gave the fruit to Adam and he took a bite that

their eyes were opened and they realized they were naked.

 

“She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and

he ate it.

Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized

they were naked;

Genesis 3:6, 7

 

Could all of this been exactly what the enemy had planned?

Did he use Eve to get to Adam?

Was that his plan, to take the man out?

It’s an interesting thought…….

 

But look at what happens after that,

 

“Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord

God as He was walking in the garden in the cool of the day,

and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

But the Lord called to the man, “Where are you?”

Genesis 3:8

 

Firstly, God knew exactly what happened. He was not clueless!

What’s interesting though is that He called Adam! God held him

responsible for what happened.

We see God talking to Adam from verse 9 till verse 12.

Man as the head was responsible but Adam still blamed Eve

who in turn blamed the snake. It’s important to note that God

confronted Adam first!

 

So what is the take home here?

 

Women, God gave you a purpose. Don’t let anyone dimish your

worth because of their lack of understanding. Pursue all that

God has called you to do whatever that may be.

 

Men, we are to lead, guide and protect. In marriage we must

make sure we are doing that. We are responsible for how we lead

our families.

Single men, we are to learn what it means to lead, guide and

protect the way God planned.

The last point is this, our value is the same. No gender is

better but when it comes to function we are very different.

We need to understand that does not make us less of a person.

We must embrace our God given differences and honor each other!

God bless you friends and Happy belated Women’s day!

 

Rolain

 

photo credit: google images

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Relationships From A Friend’s Point of View……


 

Relationships!! When I say that I mean between a man and a woman. How do we carry ourselves around each other? As a man I see how we need help and grace! We are to honour God in the relationships we have, we are to put Him first as well. This post is directed more towards the men because as men we are called to lead. We are the ones who called to be the head. As men we can be so clueless at times hence this post. So if you are in a relationship and you don’t have a clue about what you supposed to be doing then this is the post for you. If you are not yet in one then this will help as well.

These are the thoughts of one of my best friends. She was kind enough to let me share it because I think it will give you an idea into how to treat a woman but more than that it will teach you how to honour the women God has placed in your lives.  It will teach you to treat her the way God wants you to treat her. We live in a world where relationships are painted as some small thing but it’s not. God created relationships.  We need strong relationships in our lives to grow and as men it’s our responsibility to lead the way. Women need us to be strong to lead. They need us to lead them deeper into God but to do that you as a man have to know! How can you be that man if you are clueless??? So let us move on.

*please note that this is not how all women think. This is how my friend thinks but she is a woman but not just any woman but a wise woman so I think there is a lot we can learn as men from what she has shared!!!
I am going to highlight a few things from what I have read and if I see a need to expound more on a point I will.

THOUGHTS OF A WOMAN ON RELATIONSHIPS

– In any interaction with a lady you BOTH need to decide, are we bringing each other closer to God or further away, and this also is true if she is just a friend, God needs to be at the centre.

This is so true. She is so right about that. If God is not at the centre of your relationship you are in trouble. God needs to be the focus of your relationship. He is not second or third or fourth! He is first!!
Men, it is our job to initiate where the relationship is going. It is our responsibility to lead the relationship towards God. Do not wait for the woman to start the conversation. You lead her! I read a quote the other day that said, “The greatest thing a man can do to a woman is to lead her closer to God than to himself.

– Games are for the court, field or the computer not a relationship and that goes for a friend too! You playing games and trying to get a reaction out of her leaves room for miscommunication, misinterpretation and it proves you are secure.

– A lady’s heart is a precious jewel and should be treated as such.

– Women are emotional, get over it and get used to it, it does not make them weak. Emotions are human. It’s HOW she deals with her emotions that is important.

– Study her, but she is not a test to be passed or failed. Never stop learning about her.

– (I really like this one 🙂 ) Be aware that a lady is always thinking 5 steps ahead of you in regards to this relationship whether purely friendship or something deeper, she is ALWAYS thinking and quite possibly taking what you say out of context, women look at details and will analyse them so you need to know that what you say IS IMPORTANT even if you are “joking”.

– The pace and direction of any relationship is dependent on the man. You are the leader, take responsibility for that. If she ends up going in the direction of a serious relationship do not blame her, you lead her that way!!!
(that is a hard one men)

– Your word means something…keep it and if you have not, man up and tell her!

– The best thing that you can do is be honest with her.

– You have no business  telling a lady how you feel about her if you are not prepared to act on those feelings.

I think I will stop there. I have given you a lot to think about. Relationships are so important. We need to guard the relationships we have. I hope your eyes have been opened but just beside been opened I hope you have been enlightened!!!
This is just a little of what I have been given but the bit I have shared should help you. Let us learn to honour God in the relatonships we have with each other!

Rolain.P