How to pray for your future wife!


This post is a response to a post I read a few days ago, a post that  challenged me to the core. If you are a single woman I urge you to read it. The title of the post is called, “Dear Future Husband” and it is written by Samantha Hardcastle. You can read it here.

Men, I urge you to read it as well. It is an excellently written post and I think as men we need to know the kind of women we want and Samantha does a great job of holding up a Proverbs 31 woman. Anyway, let’s start. After reading the post I realized how important it is for us as men to do our part. We too need to pray for our wives. Samantha says,

‘These women don’t know if he has brown hair or orange hair – if he enjoys his coffee black or sweet – or if he’s been through hell and back. But they all share a common thread that all too easily, could be a lost art in one’s love life – and that is the act of praying.”

Men, prayer is important. Prayer is powerful and not to be taken lightly. I say that to you and to myself as a reminder. But I would like to go further with this because as men our responsibility is so much greater not because God made men better than women, but because God has a plan. We are to be the head. We are called to lead our families. We are called to protect and take care of them. The responsibility we have been given is very serious. So the question stands, how are we as men to pray for our wives?

I mentioned the first point. The actually act of praying is very important and key.

For the second point I would like to share something else from Samantha’s post,

“As I go through my past letters, a common theme I have prayed over him is that He would be a bold man for the things of God, bold in loving others, bold in living selflessly, bold in risking his personal comfort for more of Jesus. A man who is bold is the kind of man I want to hold”.

Another way of praying for your future wife is by preparing yourself in your singleness.

What habits need to be changed now? We don’t start when we get married, no! We start now. Ask God to show you habits that are not honoring to Him and ask your closest friends about the things you do that annoy them. Maybe you talk with food in your mouth or people can hear you from the other side of the world when you eat. Maybe you like getting up late every day or maybe you can’t resist flirting with other women, I don’t know. Just change habits that need to be changed.

Have a vision. As a man you are going to lead your family but how will you lead if you don’t have a vision? Let me rephrase that. How can you lead your family if you don’t know what your purpose is? Everyone has a purpose from God. Ask God to show you His purpose for your life.

Seek God with all of your heart. I put this third but it’s actually the most important thing a man can do. Without God we are nothing. He must be first in your life. He must be your consuming passion. He must be the one who occupies your thoughts constantly. He must be the one that completes you. Please listen to me on this point. A woman will not complete you. God is the only one, I repeat , the only one who will complete you…..The media has lied to us through movies and music that a man or woman will complete us but that is so not true. GOD IS THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL COMPLETE YOU. Ladies, if you find yourself relying on a man for meaning and purpose then you have been deceived! God is the only one who can give you that.

I will stop there for today. I have lots to share but I will stop there. I hope you got the gist of what I am saying. As men we need to pray for our wives too. They need our prayers as we need their prayers……It’s a two way thing.  Be vigilant; don’t take the assignment you have been given by God lightly. Your future wife is depending on you, she is praying for you!

Rolain

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How the wars in your life are won!


THOUGHT OF THE DAY.

 

We all have wars to fight. We cannot run away from battles. They are a part of life but how are we to deal with them?

How do we become victorious? We find the answer in the book of Samuel.

 

David strengthened himself with trust in his God. He ordered Abiathar the priest, son of Ahimelech, Bring me

the Ephod so I can consult God. Abiathar brought it to David. 

Then David prayed to God, Shall I go after these raiders? Can I catch them? 

The answer came, go after them! Yes, you’ll catch them! Yes, you’ll make the rescue! 

1 Samuel 30: 6-8

 

When the Philistines got word that David had been made king over all Israel, they came on the hunt for him.

David heard of it and went down to the stronghold. When the Philistines arrived, they deployed their forces in Rephaim Valley. 

Then David prayed to God: “Shall I go up and fight the Philistines? Will you help me beat them? 

Go up, “God replied. Count on me. I’ll help you beat them.”

2 Samuel 5:17-20

 

Later there was a repeat performance. The Philistines came up again and deployed their troops in the Rephaim

Valley. David again prayed to God.

This time God said, don’t attack them head-on. Instead, circle around behind them and ambush them from the grove

of sacred trees. When you hear the sound of shuffling in the trees, get ready to move out. It’s a signal that God is going

ahead of you to smash the Philistine camp.

2 Samuel 5:22– 24

 

Time and time again we see this pattern throughout scripture. Whoever it was, they always sought The Lord first.

As we face the battles that come our way we need to realize we can come to God. He is our Defender and He will fight for us.

The mistake we make is we think we can do it on our own. But it’s not true!!!! We are not strong enough, and smart enough. We need

Gods help. He is the One who will deliver us. I have tried at times fight on my own only to fail. David as great as he was,

and as great as an army he commanded always sought The Lord first. He didn’t rely on his own strength and on the strength of his mighty men.

 

Who are you relying on when you go to war?

Is it the weapons you possess or the connections you have or the family you come from or the riches you possess?

The experience you have, the intellect you possess????

That means nothing if you don’t seek The Lord. You will fail if you go out alone!!!

Rely on The Lord when you go to war! Rely on God when you face the giants in your life!

 

Rolain.

The word being declared….!!


I have been taught, the word of God in our mouth is just as powerful as the word of God in God’s mouth. Our word’s have power and even more so when we speak the word. There is power when we declare things over our lives, family and other things. There is a scripture I want to declare. It may be applicable to you or it might not but that’s OK. God has really been giving me a lot of scripture, scripture which I believe I should share. I am going to be declaring Psalm 21: 1-7 and I will personalize it because that is what I do at times. I will read it from the Amplified version.

I shall joy in Your strength, O Lord; and in Your salvation how greatly shall I rejoice! 

You have given me my heart’s desire and have not withheld the request of my lips. Selah

For You send blessings of good things to meet me; You set a crown of pure gold on my head. 

I asked life of You, and You gave it to me – long life forever and evermore. 

My glory is great because of Your aid; splendor and majesty You bestow upon me.

For You make me to be blessed and a blessing forever; You make me exceedingly glad with the joy of Your presence. 

I trust, rely on, and is confident in the Lord, and through the mercy and steadfast love of the Most High I will never be moved. 

 

I hope this word ministers to you as it has ministered to me…….

Rolain

When Trouble comes.


We live in a broken world. And because we live in this world we are guaranteed that we will face trials and persecution. (Read John 16:33)
I would like to ask, how do you respond to the trials and frustration and the distress in your life? Do you freak out and lose it or are you calm as you wait on God?
What are you speaking in the trouble you facing? Is it life or death? Are you making your situation worse with the words you speak or are you making it better?

There is a life lesson that I would like to share with you that I have been taught from the Word. It is a life lesson and not something we do once in a while. The great men and women in the bible applied it whenever they were in trouble. The lesson I would like to share is, turning to God. As a son or daughter of God we need to learn to turn to God. No matter what comes our way, we must learn to turn to our Father.
I am going to show you two men of faith who did that but the Word is full of other examples.
The first person I would like to show you is King Asa.

There came out against Judah Zerah the Ethiopian with a host of a million [that is, too many to be numbered] and 300 chariots, and came as far as Mareshah.
Then Asa went out against him, and they set up their lines of battle in the Valley of Zephathah at Mareshah.
Asa cried to the Lord his God, O Lord, there is none besides You to help, and it makes no difference to You whether the one You help is mighty or powerless. Help us, O Lord our God!
For we rely on You, and we go against this multitude in Your name.
O Lord, You are our God; let no man prevail against You!
2 Chronicles 14:9-11

The second person I would like to show you is Asa’s son Jehoshaphat.

It was told Jehoshaphat, A great multitude has come against you from beyond the [Dead ] Sea, from Edom; and behold they are in Hazazon-tamar, which is Engedi.
Then Jehoshaphat feared, and set himself [determinedly, as his vital need] to seek the Lord; he proclaimed a fast in all Judah.
2 Chronicles 20:3,4

These men had great challenges to overcome but they looked to God first. They did not call their friends first. Their first point of call was God. It is interesting to note that Jehoshaphat feared when he heard about the mighty army coming against him. But even in fear he sought God! It is ok to express fear but it is what you do in fear what counts. Do you panic and speak doom when in fear? We need to be like Jehoshaphat who in his fear still turned to God.
As both these men turned to God, He delivered them. Let us then learn to turn to God all the time. He wants us to turn to Him because He knows He is the only one who can save us. He also knows that it will strengthen our faith in Him as we turn to Him more and more.

It is sad to see that Asa stopped looking to God. He turned to man for help. Our trust in man is vain. It will not get us any where. Look at what God says:

At that time Hanani the seer came to Asa king of Judah and said to him, Because you have relied on the king of Syria and not on the Lord your God, the army of the king of Syria has escaped you.
Were not the Ethiopians and Libyans a huge host with very many chariots and horsemen? Yet because you relied then on the Lord, He gave them into your hand.
2Chronicles 16:7,8

Let us not be like Asa who towards the end of his life refused to seek God.

In the thirty-ninth year of his reign Asa was diseased in his feet-until his disease became very severe; yet in his disease he did not seek the Lord, but relied on the physicians.
2 Chronicles 16:12

I pray that will not be our testimony. Instead it will be one where when trouble comes He will be the first we turn to. Amen.

Rolain.P

I Saw Wisdom Fight Strength!!!!


Who would win between Wisdom and Strength? Wisdom is not as physically defined as Strength. Wisdom does not rely on muscles to win a fight. Wisdom relies on what he knows. Strength on the other hand relies on brute strength to win. In past battles that has proved key. But here we are, Wisdom vs Strength.
What do you rely on when things get tough? Do you rely on brute strength to get yourself out of fixes or do you rely on the wisdom of God?
The Word of God makes it very clear who would win. Let us take a look at some scriptures.

Proverbs 24:5 says; A wise man is strong and is better than a strong man, and a man of knowledge increases and strengthens his power

Proverbs 21:22 says; A wise man scales the city walls of the mighty and brings down the stronghold in whicb they trust.

Ecclesiastes 9:16 says; But I say that wisdom is better than might, though the poor man’s wisdom is despised and his words are not heeded.

As you can see, Wisdom is the winner, godly wisdom! Seek wisdom from on high. Don’t rely on your own strength. Your strength will fail you. As I end I want to show you one more scripture about wisdom. It is an amazing scripture. It is in Proverbs 24:3,4. I will read it from the Amplified Bible.

Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation],
And by knowledge shall its chambers [of every area] be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

We build our lives, homes and families through Godly Wisdom! That is how important it is. We cannot build anything worthwhile without godly wisdom.

Rolain.P

I Saw Wisdom Fight Strength!!!!


Who would win between Wisdom and Strength? Wisdom is not as physically defined as Strength. Wisdom does not rely on muscles to win a fight. Wisdom relies on what he knows. Strength on the other hand relies on brute strength to win. In past battles that has proved key. But here we are, Wisdom vs Strength.
What do you rely on when things get tough? Do you rely on brute strength to get yourself out of fixes or do you rely on the wisdom of God?
The Word of God makes it very clear who would win. Let us take a look at some scriptures.

Proverbs 24:5 says; A wise man is strong and is better than a strong man, and a man of knowledge increases and strengthens his power

Proverbs 21:22 says; A wise man scales the city walls of the mighty and brings down the stronghold in whicb they trust.

Ecclesiastes 9:16 says; But I say that wisdom is better than might, though the poor man’s wisdom is despised and his words are not heeded.

As you can see, Wisdom is the winner, godly wisdom! Seek wisdom from on high. Don’t rely on your own strength. Your strength will fail you. As I end I want to show you one more scripture about wisdom. It is an amazing scripture. It is in Proverbs 24:3,4. I will read it from the Amplified Bible.

Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation],
And by knowledge shall its chambers [of every area] be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

We build our lives, homes and families through Godly Wisdom! That is how important it is. We cannot build anything worthwhile without godly wisdom.

Rolain.P