He was abandoned by everyone!


“Be diligent to come quickly; for Demas has forsaken me, 

having loved this present world, and he has departed for 

Thessalonica-Crescens for Galatia, Titus for Dalmatia. 

Only Luke is with me. “

2 Timothy 4:9-11

 

“Alexander the coppersmith did me much harm. May the Lord

repay him according to his works. You also must beware of him, 

for he has greatly resisted our words. 

At my first defense no one stood with me, but all forsook me. 

May it not be charged against them. “

2 Timothy 4:14-16

 

How hard it must of been for Paul. He had been abandoned by

so many people.

He was on the Lord’s business and people kept leaving him left,

right and center!

I don’t think it was easy for him.

 

I think we can all think of a time where we have been let down.

It could of been by a family member, a friend, or a co worker.

Whoever it was, it wasn’t fun. It’s hard actually.

 

But that’s what happens when we put our trust in man.

But that goes two way.

I can remember countless times I have failed people. No

matter how hard I tried I still failed them.

What is the answer then?

 

Paul didn’t have one person abandon him, he had several people

abandon him and oppose him! How did he deal with it?

 

“But the Lord stood with me and strengthened me, so that the 

message might be preached fully through me, and that all the 

Gentiles might hear. Also I was delivered out of the mouth of the

lion. And the Lord will deliver me from every evil work and 

preserve me for His heavenly kingdom. 

To Him be glory forever and ever. Amen! “

2 Timothy 4:17-18

 

When Paul was abandoned by his friends and co workers he

didn’t go into a panic attack. He didn’t send “hate mail” to

the people who abandoned him. Instead, he looked to God

to help him.

And the Lord helped Him and delivered him out of the mouth

of the lion.

The Lord remained faithful to him. Even when man failed him,

the Lord remained faithful. The Lord was by his side.

The lesson I want to get across is this,

 

People will fail us, and we will fail people but our

trust and dependence should be on God always!

What happened to Paul had the potential of sending him

into depression and so much more but he knew Who turn to.

The problem for us begins when we put all our hope and reliance

on man.

The only person we should totally depend on is God.

I am not saying abandon your relationships with everyone

and do everything on your own.

I am saying, understand that people will fail you and you will

fail people.

Depend entirely on God.

He will never let you down.

Rolain

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When everything is crumbling and failing…….


storms

“God is our refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to 

temptation], a very present and well-proved help in trouble. 

Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change

and though the mountain be shaken into the midst of the 

seas, 

Though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble

at its swelling and tumult. Selah [pause, and calmly think of 

that]! 

Psalm 46:1-3

 

That is what we are going to do. We are going to pause and

think about what this scripture means for us in these trying

times.

This scripture properly describes the times we are in now.

Things are being shaken, things are crumbling and falling.

Nothing is stable anymore.

You can’t help but feel that things could just come to a standstill

at any moment.

With all that instability, how does a person live?

How do we survive in such circumstances?

 

The word has the answer.

 

“God is our Refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to 

temptation], a very present and well-proved help in trouble.”

Psalm 46:1

 

In the face of such instability and uncertainty we don’t need to

panic. The Lord is our Refuge and Strength!

He is the only way we will survive this chaos.

If we look to man, a government and anything else beside

God for an answer we will fail.

Everything that is not founded on God will fail, that’s a fact!

 

No matter how crazy things get don’t fear. God is with you…..

Be encouraged friends.

He is our Refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to

temptation]! A well proved help in trouble…..

Amen

 

Rolain

 

He was with her!!!!!


(This is a special post in honor of Women’s Day.)

 

In the last week of January we had a men’s conference. We

had a great time of worship and fellowship. As great as that was

that is not what stood out for me. The word our pastor preached

really drove home the importance of the mission and assignment

God has given us men. It was a message that challenged me to

the core. As men we have a huge responsibility that must not be

taken lightly. (don’t worry ladies, it will all make sense in a bit) !!

 

I would like to share a very familiar passage of scripture:

 

“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food

and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom,

she took some and ate it.

She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.”

Genesis 3:6

 

Did you see that? I certainly didn’t the first time I was shown.

Eve took a bite of the fruit (not an apple as some people think)

then gave it to Adam who was with her…..

Adam was with her when Eve was being tempted!!!

Why didn’t he stop the enemy?? Who knows! Maybe he froze,

maybe he didn’t know what to do but the fact remains, he was

supposed to protect Eve and he didn’t. Things would of been

much different if he did so!

 

And look at how crafty the enemy was. he knew God’s order

and protocol. He knew man was the head, the cover but

instead of attacking him, he went to Eve!

 

Let me pause here for a bit and say this, men and women are

equal in value. Man is not better than woman.

But what the enemy has done is, he has got us to focus on the

wrong thing. The issue is not if women can do what men can

do and who is better at everything. For centuries men and

women have been trying to prove who is better. From the

time we start walking we are pitted against each other.

What an embarrasement for a guy if a girl beats him!

I would love to tell you how I was beaten by a girl in a chilli

eating competition but I will have to put that on hold!

I never lived that down for quite a while especially when I

considered myself the chilli master!   🙂    Anyway………..

 

If we have been thinking like that then we have been deceived. The

real issue is about what God had in mind when He created man and

women because He had a clear idea.

God made man and women in His image and we all know that

there is no part of God that is weak or useless, but as men we

have this idea that women are weak, and that they are meant

to be slaves and do our every bidding. They are not encouraged to

pursue the call of God on their lives and so on…

God has a purpose for men and He has a purpose for women!

God made man to be the head. To lead their family, to guide

them and protect.

This is what God says about His purpose for women,

 

“Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficent, satisfactory)

that the man should be alone;

I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary)

for him.

Genesis 2:18

 

This verse has been misundertood so much but we really need

to take the time to study it and even ask God to show us what

He intended in the very beginning. God didn’t create her to be

your own personal slave! (are you kidding me??)

There is so much more, and remember, women are a very

specific expression of God! To understand Him better, He made

women!

Let’s keep moving…..

 

When we read Genesis 3 again it’s interesting to note that

when Eve took a bite of the fruit, nothing happened!

 

When the women saw that the fruit of the tree was good

for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining

wisdom, she took some and ate it.

It’s only when she gave the fruit to Adam and he took a bite that

their eyes were opened and they realized they were naked.

 

“She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and

he ate it.

Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized

they were naked;

Genesis 3:6, 7

 

Could all of this been exactly what the enemy had planned?

Did he use Eve to get to Adam?

Was that his plan, to take the man out?

It’s an interesting thought…….

 

But look at what happens after that,

 

“Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord

God as He was walking in the garden in the cool of the day,

and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

But the Lord called to the man, “Where are you?”

Genesis 3:8

 

Firstly, God knew exactly what happened. He was not clueless!

What’s interesting though is that He called Adam! God held him

responsible for what happened.

We see God talking to Adam from verse 9 till verse 12.

Man as the head was responsible but Adam still blamed Eve

who in turn blamed the snake. It’s important to note that God

confronted Adam first!

 

So what is the take home here?

 

Women, God gave you a purpose. Don’t let anyone dimish your

worth because of their lack of understanding. Pursue all that

God has called you to do whatever that may be.

 

Men, we are to lead, guide and protect. In marriage we must

make sure we are doing that. We are responsible for how we lead

our families.

Single men, we are to learn what it means to lead, guide and

protect the way God planned.

The last point is this, our value is the same. No gender is

better but when it comes to function we are very different.

We need to understand that does not make us less of a person.

We must embrace our God given differences and honor each other!

God bless you friends and Happy belated Women’s day!

 

Rolain

 

photo credit: google images

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Will things ever get better…?


Will things get better? When will things get better in my

country? When will it turn around for the good?

These are the kind of questions I have been asking myself.

My country is in a very critical position right now.

Corruption has escalated much (but which country hasn’t)

Most businesses are closing. Unemployment has risen…..and,

and, and…….the list continues.

 

But is that not the story of the world?

The world is not getting brighter, easy to live in,

and so on. On the contrary, it is getting darker,

more evil, more corrupt…

I was waiting for things to get better in my country.

But there is a chance it might not get better but instead

deteriorate even more!

 

That is when with the help of a friend I realized I am

waiting on the wrong thing. My focus is wrong.

I serve an Almighty, Powerful God. He is not looking at what’s

happening around me to determine if He can bless me.

He is not moved by the darkness, corruption

and the evil in the world. If He wants to bless me He will

regardless of what is happening around me.

Can God provide for me in a desert??  Yes!

Let’s look at a few scriptures:

 

He split the rocks in the desert and gave them an ocean

of fresh water.

He brought a stream of water out of the rock and made it

flow like a river!

Psalms 78:15, 16 (ERV)

 

But you would be fed with the finest wheat;

with honey from the rock I would satisfy you.

Psalms 81:16 (NIV)

 

Think about a rock. It’s one of the hardest substances

on earth. You can’t break it easily. You will get nothing

from it. You can’t rely on it for sustenance but God says:

He will feed you with honey from the ROCK and

make water flow out from it……!

 

The conclusion is this: God CAN provide for you in the desert!

You can be surrounded by the worst circumstances ever

but God will still make a way for you. Don’t wait for man.

Don’t look to anything except God. There is hope for you.

The world wants you to think you are out of options.

It teaches you to look at what is in your hand and what is

happening around you to decide what you can have. But it’s a

lie……That is not faith!!

 

I am not waiting for things to get better anymore. I am not

waiting for the economy to get better because God is my

Provider.

I don’t know where you are in life and what you are trusting

God for but know this: there is more!

God wants you to have more. You can pursue your dreams

even if there is nothing in your hands. You can ask the impossible,

pray the unthinkable because God is your God!

He surely is our amazing God!

 

Rolain

 

 

 

 

 

 

Becoming that man…..


 

Being a male is a matter of birth but being a man

is a matter of choice

 

I love this quote because it is so true…..but I am

not here to discuss the quote. I am here to discuss

something more, something that has been stirred

in my heart this past weekend.

Our church had its annual conference which was

so powerful. It started on Wednesday evening and

ended on Sunday. The messages were all so relevant

and powerful but the men’s meeting we had on Saturday

stood out the most. I love our men’s meetings because

there is something powerful that happens when men

get together to worship the Lord!

 

My pastor was speaking about becoming THAT man in today’s

crazy world. He said as men we are on the road to becoming

THAT man. That got me thinking……..

 

I am committed to becoming THAT man!

But what does that really mean?

 

Becoming that man means making God first in my life.

I am not the man! God is the THE Man. He died for me

And He is the One who is directing my life.

 

Becoming that man means making a stand for purity!

We live in a sex-saturated world and as men the battle

is everywhere. There is no sitting on the fence for this

battle. A line has to be drawn, a decision must be made.

Will you get swept away in this sex-saturated world or

will you make a stand for purity?

 

I dictated a covenant (an agreement) to my eyes;

how then could I look [lustfully] upon a girl?

Job 31:1

 

Becoming that man means living by the word of God.

The word must be our guide. We can’t rely on our own

strength. As men we feel the need to show our strength but

we need to realize God wants us to trust Him. Our strength

doesn’t count for much in God’s eyes. Look to God and not

yourself.

 

How shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking

heed and keeping watch [on himself] according

to your word [conforming his life to it].

Psalm 119:9

 

This is the thing men, the world doesn’t want men

to take their place. It doesn’t want us to walk in

what God has called us to. The world is distorting

the image of man. We have a lot of males but not

a lot of men! Don’t believe the lie…….

 

Men are not better than women, God just made us

different. It’s not about who is better, faster, cleverer….

God made man and woman in HIS image!

That means we are an expression of God, man and

woman!

I think we can all agree that God is strong and powerful.

There is nothing weak about God, so if we are an expression

of God why do we see women as weak and treat them like

they are insignificant????

God is all powerful. He doesn’t have one strong side (man)

then one weak side (woman)…but there are men who think

that by the way they treat women!

It makes me mad when men think they are better than women

just because they are men!!!

But God made women to express a part of Himself so please help me

understand why you think He would make them weak and useless

when He isn’t any of these things????

That kind of thinking has to stop.

(I don’t know where that came from because I didn’t plan

on talking about that)…..

 

Without a man leading a home, a family is lost!

The enemy is destroying our kid’s right under our noses.

We leave our kids in front of the TV and think that’s

parenting but that is wrong! We need to take responsibility

men. We must protect our family…..

We need to protect the women in our lives.

Would Eve have eaten the fruit if Adam had protected her

from the enemy??? She had to face the enemy alone and

deal with him alone! But things would have been different

if Adam stood up for her and protected her…..

Young man, you are called to protect. Don’t play with women’s

emotions. You should be protecting them!

The women you are playing with are precious in the eyes of the

Lord. He loves them and has a unique call on their lives….

Why do you think the enemy is working overtime to destroy

her?

 

As I end I hope I have challenged you to become THAT man!

A lot of people are waiting for us to walk into our calling

as men! The enemy will not win. I refuse……!

 

As a man I make a decision to be THAT man…..!

Will you be THAT man too?

 

Rolain

The arrogance of man….


And Saul built an altar to the Lord;

It was the first altar he built to the

Lord.  1 Samuel 14:35

 

Saul built an altar to God. It was probably the only

altar he built to God.

Why he built the altar is not really clear but the point

is this, he built an altar.

Saul building that altar almost seems out of context.

In fact, it’s so out of Saul’s norm that the word says,

 

It was the first altar he built to God.”

 

Building an altar meant on a very rare

occasion Saul remembered God, he honored God!

It was one of those very rare occasions where

Saul put God first, where Saul stopped to thank

God.

The altar that Saul built tells us a lot about where

his relationship with God was. He didn’t build altars

which meant something.

 

On the other hand let’s look at David.

Building an altar wasn’t out of context for him.

He built countless altars to God. That also said

something about his relationship with God.

David was a man after God’s heart. God was the

most important thing to him….

 

David and Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11:1-5)

David kills Uriah (2 Samuel 11:14-23)

In both these situations David repented to God.

He confessed his sins and asked God to forgive him.

His heart broke because of what he did.

 

David counts his people (2 Samuel 24:1-9)

After counting the people the word says:

David felt ashamed after he counted the people

and said to the Lord, “I have sinned greatly in

what I did! Lord, I beg you, forgive me for my

sin. I have been very foolish.”

2 Samuel 24:10

 

Once again David humbled himself before God.

He confessed his sin to God quickly!

 

David wants to build a house for God.

(2 Samuel 7:1-18)

Even in peace David still sought the Lord.

He never forgot Him!

 

This is what I am trying to show you,

We need to be like David who built countless

altars to God. He loved God so much. Yes,

he sinned many times but he always turned 

to God. No matter how bad things got he

always turned to God and even in good times

he still turned to thank God!

 

Saul didn’t put God first a lot of the time.

Some would say he was proud. He believed

he could make it on his own. He was a skilled

warrior who was a “head taller” than everyone

else. (1 Samuel 9:2)

Whatever the case we must aim to be like

David who humbled himself before God.

He never relied on his own strength. Instead,

he relied on God and ALWAYS turned to

God, always……

The goal is not to be David but it’s to take

those things that made his relationship

with God stronger and apply them to

our lives.

The goal is not to discredit or attack

Saul but it’s to look at his life and

learn from his mistakes. We all sin

so attacking Saul would be foolish…

 

God wants us to put Him first….

Pride will always resist God.

We need to be humble and allow

God to lead us.

Rolain