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Relationships From A Friend’s Point of View……


 

Relationships!! When I say that I mean between a man and a woman. How do we carry ourselves around each other? As a man I see how we need help and grace! We are to honour God in the relationships we have, we are to put Him first as well. This post is directed more towards the men because as men we are called to lead. We are the ones who called to be the head. As men we can be so clueless at times hence this post. So if you are in a relationship and you don’t have a clue about what you supposed to be doing then this is the post for you. If you are not yet in one then this will help as well.

These are the thoughts of one of my best friends. She was kind enough to let me share it because I think it will give you an idea into how to treat a woman but more than that it will teach you how to honour the women God has placed in your lives.  It will teach you to treat her the way God wants you to treat her. We live in a world where relationships are painted as some small thing but it’s not. God created relationships.  We need strong relationships in our lives to grow and as men it’s our responsibility to lead the way. Women need us to be strong to lead. They need us to lead them deeper into God but to do that you as a man have to know! How can you be that man if you are clueless??? So let us move on.

*please note that this is not how all women think. This is how my friend thinks but she is a woman but not just any woman but a wise woman so I think there is a lot we can learn as men from what she has shared!!!
I am going to highlight a few things from what I have read and if I see a need to expound more on a point I will.

THOUGHTS OF A WOMAN ON RELATIONSHIPS

– In any interaction with a lady you BOTH need to decide, are we bringing each other closer to God or further away, and this also is true if she is just a friend, God needs to be at the centre.

This is so true. She is so right about that. If God is not at the centre of your relationship you are in trouble. God needs to be the focus of your relationship. He is not second or third or fourth! He is first!!
Men, it is our job to initiate where the relationship is going. It is our responsibility to lead the relationship towards God. Do not wait for the woman to start the conversation. You lead her! I read a quote the other day that said, “The greatest thing a man can do to a woman is to lead her closer to God than to himself.

– Games are for the court, field or the computer not a relationship and that goes for a friend too! You playing games and trying to get a reaction out of her leaves room for miscommunication, misinterpretation and it proves you are secure.

– A lady’s heart is a precious jewel and should be treated as such.

– Women are emotional, get over it and get used to it, it does not make them weak. Emotions are human. It’s HOW she deals with her emotions that is important.

– Study her, but she is not a test to be passed or failed. Never stop learning about her.

– (I really like this one 🙂 ) Be aware that a lady is always thinking 5 steps ahead of you in regards to this relationship whether purely friendship or something deeper, she is ALWAYS thinking and quite possibly taking what you say out of context, women look at details and will analyse them so you need to know that what you say IS IMPORTANT even if you are “joking”.

– The pace and direction of any relationship is dependent on the man. You are the leader, take responsibility for that. If she ends up going in the direction of a serious relationship do not blame her, you lead her that way!!!
(that is a hard one men)

– Your word means something…keep it and if you have not, man up and tell her!

– The best thing that you can do is be honest with her.

– You have no business  telling a lady how you feel about her if you are not prepared to act on those feelings.

I think I will stop there. I have given you a lot to think about. Relationships are so important. We need to guard the relationships we have. I hope your eyes have been opened but just beside been opened I hope you have been enlightened!!!
This is just a little of what I have been given but the bit I have shared should help you. Let us learn to honour God in the relatonships we have with each other!

Rolain.P

Do You Know The Value Of A Relationship??


God is a giving God and in His spirit of giving He has blessed us with relationships. How do you view the relationships God has given you? God created relationships for a purpose. God is a relational God. He knows the importance of relationships. Without relationships we lose a very vital part of ourselves. We need relationships, we cannot do without them.
In the beginning when God created Adam everything was perfect. (Genesis 1:31)

He said everything was very good but notice what He says about Adam, “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18).
It is interesting to me that God created man to have a relationship with Him but He said that Adam was alone!!!
God met with with Adam on a daily basis but He still created Eve!!?? Why? Did God make Adam with a defect??
No, He didn’t. He knew exactly what He was doing.

We were created to have a relationship with God and at the same time we were created for each other!!

With that in mind, how much value do you place on your relationships? I have been taught that relationships are very important. We should not take them for granted because they complete us. There is a reason that you know the people you know from the prominent to the not so prominent.
God brought those people into your life for a reason. You may not understand it but know that God has a plan.

The enemy will try anything to break the relationships in your life. He will use things like familiarity, pride, envy and so on to get in the way. Don’t let him take one of God’s most precious gifts to you, relationships and destroy it. Refuse to be familiar with the relationships God has given you. Stop comparing yourself to your friend. Stop looking down on the people you know that don’t have what you have. Stop envying the friends in your life who have more than you. How will you be there for them if you got all those negative things against them? How will God”s plan for your life and their lives come to pass if we have all these negative attitudes?

Remember, the enemy will try everything he can to destroy your relationships. He will even bring the wrong kind of people into your life to poison you, to tear you down, and to corrupt you.                         Understand that if relationships are vital to your growth then the wrong relationships can destroy you!!!

Let us be people who take the people God has put in our lives seriously. They are all important to your purpose even if you cannot see it. Let us honor God in our relationships. God bless.

Rolain.

What Does Humility Mean In A Person’s Life?


In the past few days I have been learning about humility. God has been speaking to me through His word and other people about humility. In one of my most recent posts I shared the fact that to be great you need to be humble. I have seen how important a role humility plays in the life of a christian.
The verse I used in that post was James 4:10 which says:

Humble yourselves [feeling very insignificant] in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you [He will lift you up and make your lives significant].

But this past week I believe God has been speaking to me about what humility means in a life of a person. The first thing I have seen is, humility is the hallmark of a christian, well it should be a hallmark! The great men and women of the bible and even nowadays are and where humble. They knew who was really in control!
And that is the essence of humility. Humility is coming to a realisation that you are not in control but instead realising God is. It is coming to a place where you know that everything you have and everything you have accomplished is because of God. Yes you had a part to play but it was God who was in control. We need to learn to be humble.
The funny thing about humility is, once you think you have it you actually don’t!

I was reading a post a few days ago and I was struck by a comment the blogger said. They said,
“I still believe the most humble man on earth still thinks too highly of himself for God.”

And that is the truth. We are proud people who need the grace of God.
1Peter 5:6 says:

For God sets Himself against the proud (the insolent, overbearing, the disdainful, the presumptuous, the boastful) – [and He opposes, frustrates, and defeats them], but gives grace (favour, blessing) to the humble.

My goal for this post is to make you analyse yourself. Are you humble, really?

Another scripture to take note of is Proverbs 18:12 and it says:

Haughtiness comes before disaster, but humility before honour.

One more important thing to note is, humility is not being a doormat. It is not letting people walk all over you. It is not tearing yourself down and allowing people to disrespect you.
God does not tear you down. God loves you. So why do we tear ourselves down? I have seen people unable to recieve a compliment. You are not been proud if you recieve a compliment. You are fearfully and wonderfully made! I used to think it was wrong but I was taught there was nothing wrong with accepting a compliment. When someone compliments you accept it but in yourself give God the glory!

Humility. I want to be a humble person. I want people to see it. Can people describe you as being humble?
In your own life is God the main focus or is it the things that you do? Is it God you always elevate or yourself?

As I end I want to read an excerpt of a book I was reading that captures humility perfectly. The book is called God’s Secret Agent by Sammy Tippit.

“You know,” the old man continued,” many people come to my country and want to make a big fire for God. I don’t want to make a big fire for God. I want to be consumed by God’s fire until I am ashes. And when I am ashes, then I will see His glory. Do you understand me?
I thought he was asking me if I understood his German. I told him I did.
No, no,” he said,” do you understand what I am telling you?
When I am so much nothing that God is everything, then I will see His glory.

George Whitefield, the great evangelist of the 1700s, once said,” Let the name of George Whitefield rot in hell, but let the name of Jesus Christ be glorified forever.”

I hope you have been challenged. Humility is one of the hallmarks of a christian. Do you have the same attitude as the men I just quoted? Let us ask God for His grace to be humble.

Rolain.