So you want to date…..?

I had the amazing opportunity of being one of the best men at a friend’s wedding.I have been to weddings before but have never been this closely involved before. Being this close made me realise a few important things. As my friend and his wife exchanged their vows I realized a covenant was being made. A covenant is something we don’t take lightly at all. God is a God of covenant and marriage is a covenant.

The other thing I realized was how there is so much pressure to date. If I like someone I must date. If it doesn’t work out it doesn’t work out. But dating is so much more. The end goal of dating should be marriage. When we go into dating we should be thinking if this is the person we could marry. Dating with no goal in mind is not really dating. If you have no intention whatsoever to marry the girl or guy  you are dating and you are dating because it’s just the thing to do then please stop. You will save the both of you a lot of heartache.

Dating is great if you understand marriage could be the end result. The whole process of dating is very focused because you have an end in mind, a goal. It may not work out and I understand that but don’t just date for the sake of dating. The person you are dating might be your husband or wife. If that is not what you want then stop.  Dating for the sake of dating just causes unnecessary pain. Do your partner a favor and stop right there.

Saying “I DO” doesn’t start on your wedding day. The process of saying those words begins when you start dating. Let us not take it lightly. Allow God to lead you in your relationships. Guard your heart and your partners heart by not getting into something you know that you know has no future. God will bring the right person at the right time! (I say that by faith….. ).    😉


Finding The Root Of Negative Words……

But I tell you, on the day of judgement men will have to give account for every idle (inoperative, non-working) word they speak.
For by your words you will be justified acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned and sentenced.
Matt 12:36,37

This scripture is very heavy I must say. On judgement day we will be asked to account for EVERY idle word we have spoken!!! That is hectic because I can’t even remember all the words I spoke last week till now! How much more for an entire life???
We can’t just ignore the gravity of this verse. What does that mean for us?
It means we have got to start changing the way we speak. But that is harder than it sounds!!! How can one change the way he speaks? How does one change from speaking negatively to positively.?
I guess the real question to ask is, what influences the words that come out of our mouths?? Where do the words that we speak come from?
The answer is further up in that verse.

You offspring of vipers! How can you speak good things when you are evil (wicked)? For out of the fullness (the overflow, the superabundance) of the heart the mouth speaks.
The good man from his inner good treasure flings forth good things, and the evil man out of his inner evil storehouse flings forth evil things.
Matthew 12:34,35

We can see our words are greatly affected by what is in our hearts!! But what is in our hearts? How did the evil man get a “storehouse of evil things” and how did the good man get a ” storehouse of good things”?
The answer is easy, the good man fills his life with good things. He deposits good things and that is why he can speak well. Good things range from reading the word, to speaking right, to listening to the right things, to reading the right books, hanging around people who build you up and so on.
The evil man on the other hand has been making bad deposits!!! He lies, and watches anything. He doesn’t read the word or anything of worth. There are a whole host of other things the evil man gets into that I will not mention but the point is this, he has been making bad deposits and because of that he will bring forth evil. That is what is in his heart  and because of that it has affected the way he speaks.

What kind of deposits are you making because that will affect how you speak. Guard your heart.

But whatever comes out of the mouth comes from the heart, and this is what makes a man unclean and defiles [him].
Matt 15:18