What is the real cost of a negative word??

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips

comes to ruin.”

Proverbs 13:3

 

In my previous post I spoke about trusting God in spite of the circumstances

that surround us on a daily basis. . But there is something

we need to be aware of that can quickly stifle God’s work in our lives. And

that is to do with the words we speak.

The thing is this, we know the power of our words. There is so much teaching

in the word about the power of our words. The understanding is there but we

need to do it more and more.

 

It’s NOT okay to speak negatively once in a while. Every time we are reckless with our

words something happens! This life is war friends and we can’t afford to speak death,

even if it’s once in a while. It’s not okay to speak negatively even if everyone is doing it.

 

Everyone at work may be talking about the boss but it’s not okay for you to join in

with them.

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

 

Things may be falling apart in the country you living in and “everyone” is tearing down

the government with their words but once again, it’s not okay to join in and tear them down

with your words.

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

 

Your friends may be gossiping about someone but it’s not okay to join in with them.

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

 

We need to step up our vigilance with the words we speak.

Our words will make a way for God to do great things in our lives or stop His

miracles dead in their tracks!

How can YAH move on your behalf if you always talking about how there is no

way for you and your family?

He can’t move on your behalf if you telling everyone how doomed you are, how you

will always to struggle to pay school fees, and so on!

 

I am not saying don’t talk about the difficult things you face. Storms are a

part of life on this earth. Speak about the problem but remember to speak

about the God who saves. Speak about the God who delivers,

about the God who answers prayer.

The focus should be on the God who will carry us through whatever comes

our way and and not on the problems!

Our conversations need to change for sure if we are going to see change.

Let’s look at one more scripture.

 

“Who is the man who desires life,

and loves many days, that he may

see good?

Psalm 34:12

 

I don’t know about you but I desire life, and I want to live long

to see good.

The author mentions a few things we need to do

if we are to have life, and have long life.

 

We are to depart from evil and do good;

seek peace and pursue it. (Psalm 34:14)

 

But look at what’s at the top of that list,

 

“Keep your tongue from evil,

and your lips from speaking deceit.”

Psalm 34:13

 

Like I said before, we are at war.

We can’t let the hard things we face suck out every trace of faith in our words.

It’s the faith in our words that YAH responds to.

That’s what opens doors, that’s what makes a way for YAH to move in our lives!

 

This is a challenge to us all,

 

“He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips

comes to ruin.”

Proverbs 13:3

 

Bless you friends….

 

Rolain

 

 

Where does your validation come from??

As humans we crave applause, attention and acceptance.  We

want to be validated but how far will we go to get it?

As I talk about validation I really need to talk about self esteem

because in my eyes these two things are linked closely together.

When we esteem ourselves highly the less we look to man to

validate us.

 

One of my mentor’s described self esteem this way, self esteem

is your estimation of your own worth!

 

How much value do you place on yourself?

Do you esteem yourself highly?

 

People may have their own opinions about

you but you should value yourself highly. You should be your

biggest fan no matter what.

But what should your estimation be based off? What is your

measure?

The word of God should be your measure!

God knows the truth about you so seek out what He says about

you.

His word has so much amazing truths to declare to you about you….

 

Be real about your shortcomings but be wise how you approach

them. Tearing yourself down is probably doing more

damage than people’s negative  words to you!

 

So like I said, be honest with yourself. When you make a mistake

admit it but correct yourself in a way that still

maintains your value. I was really bad at doing this. I used to tear

myself down badly. I thought that was the right thing to do

but I was wrong. No matter how wrong I am God would NEVER

tear me down so why do I think it’s okay??

We all sin so it’s natural to speak negative. We don’t need to put

much effort into speaking and thinking

negatively. It’s hard to NOT speak negatively. It’s hard to NOT

gossip. It’s hard to NOT think negatively.

We have to be very intentional and deliberate about being positive

and encouraging and we need help!

 

We need affirmation, we need encouragement, we need support but

is that the main drive behind everything we do?

 

^“But when He was in Jerusalem during the Passover Feast, many

believed in His name [identified themselves with His party] after

seeing His signs (wonders, miracles) which He was doing.

But Jesus [for His part] did not trust Himself to them, because

He knew all [men];

And He did not need anyone to bear witness concerning man

[needed no evidence from anyone about men], for He Himself

knew what was in human nature. [He could read men’s hearts.]”

John 2:23-25

 

Jesus didn’t seek validation from man. He was content because

God validated Him!

 

“As soon as Jesus was baptized, He went up out of the water. 

At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of

God descending like a dove and alighting on Him. 

And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love;

with Him I am well pleased.”

Matthew 3:16, 17

What just happened there? Jesus was being validated!

He wasn’t looking for applause or encouragement from man,

He came to accomplish the mission He was given by God!

 

We need to be careful when it comes to who we look to for

validation.

Man never created you, God did so He is the only one qualified

to tell you who you really are.

Your best friend may know you better than the average person

but that doesn’t mean they know the real you.

It may be argued that your family knows you best but it’s just

not true. They know you better than anyone else but they still

don’t know the real you.

God is the only One who knows you in and out!

You can’t even trust your own assessment of who you really

are because once again, you didn’t create you, God did! So stop

with the “this is the way I am” statements because your

assessment is not 100% accurate.

 

Think about a house for a minute. Let’s say you are selling it.

It would be crazy asking a friend or random

stranger to tell you what the value of the house is. You have to go

to the real estate agency to get an accurate value.

Stop letting people tell you what your value is.

Today you have an opportunity to make a decision.

Just because someone sees you one way doesn’t mean that’s

who you are. (that’s really good news!!)

That’s the way they see you and not the way God sees you.

Because we are flawed we see in part. No one sees perfectly,

just God, remember that.

You don’t have to confine yourself to the perceptions of others.

You can break out of that.

You can decide to be the person God has created you to be. Let

Him show you who you really are. I believe there is so much to

still discover about ourselves. If we stop at, “this is the way I am” or

believe someone’s assessment of who we are then we limit

ourselves. If God really created us (which He did) surely there is

more right??

Surely there is more to us than what people see? !!!!

 

And on that note I will stop here.

If you are struggling with a low self esteem and you need to talk to someone click on the

link below.

 

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/general/i-need-someone-to-talk-to-about-my-problems-but-where-do-i-turn/

 

Bless you friends!

 

Rolain

The inside job!

 

“So observe and practice all they tell you; but do not do

what they do, for they preach, but do not practice. “

Matthew 23:3

 

Jesus was speaking to the multitudes and his disciples about the

Pharisees. The things they did were so crazy.

 

“Now Jesus turned to address His disciples, along with the

crowd that had gathered with them.

The religion scholars and Pharisees are competent teachers in

God’s law. You won’t go wrong in following their teachings on

Moses. But be careful about following them.

They talk a good line, but they don’t live it. They don’t take it

into their hearts and live it out in their behavior. It’s all

spit-and-polish veneer.

 

Their lives are perpetual fashion shows, embroidered prayer

shawls one day and flowery prayers the next.

They love to sit at the head table at church dinners, basking

in the most prominent positions, preening in the radiance

of public flattery, receiving honorary degrees, and getting

called ‘Doctor’ and ‘Reverend’.”

Matthew 23:1-9

 

They were all about the outward man. They

wanted to be seen, they wanted to be respected, and a whole

heap of other things but they missed something very

important – the inner man. They were not interested about who

they were on the inside. Let me share a scripture with you that

will bring more understanding of what I am saying,

 

“You’re blessed when you get your inside world-your mind and 

heart-put right. 

Then you can see God in the outside world.”

Matthew 5:8

 

How much time are you putting into working on the inner man?

How much time are you putting into changing the way you think?

How much time are you putting into developing your character?

How much time and effort are you putting into loving God with

all of you?

The Pharisees focused on the wrong things.

Because of that they missed Jesus.

If we are to grow in our relationship with God we need to take

more time focusing on the inner man.

We need to be real with ourselves about who we are and bring

it to Jesus. Where is your heart? Where is your mind?

Are you becoming like Christ daily?

Let’s not make the same mistake the Pharisees made.

Let’s get the inside man right first.

 

 

What’s the point of being in a position of power and influence

but you lie, cheat, steal, tear down people, and gossip??

Who are you helping if you have all the money in the

world but are rude, arrogant, brash, cruel, angry

all the time, unloving, uncaring and so on???

 

Let’s take more time working on the inner man. You are blessed

when you do that.

Bless you friends

 

Rolain