Drawing the right conclusions from setbacks and failures…..

How do you respond when faced with a setback? How do you respond to failure?

If you are not careful you can draw the wrong conclusions from them. I am much better at this now,

but there was a time I used to draw the wrong conclusions a lot. The doubts caused by the failures and setbacks

wreaked havoc in me. The obvious response was to project all those negative emotions to the rest of my

life which was downright destructive.

 

There is a way to respond to setbacks and failures. Tearing yourself down because you failed is not the

way. It’s important to see failures and setbacks as “isolated incidents” Don’t let the doubts and other

negative emotions bleed into the rest of your life. You can grow after a fall, after a setback but make sure that’s

what’s happening. I am reminded of a quote that perfectly portrays what

I am talking about;

 

“Giving up on your goal because of one setback is like slashing your three other tires because you

got a flat.” – author unknown 

 

That is so true. We need to learn to draw the right conclusions from our setbacks. A setback doesn’t mean

we are failures. We failed yes, but we can get back up. We have another chance to try again.

Don’t let your setbacks and failures define what your tomorrow will be like. Don’t let them define what your

life will be like.

Remember to view them as “isolated incidents”. The Lord will lift you up when you fall.

He is more than able to turn around any situation no matter how bad. Look to Him when

faced with setbacks. Call on Him when you fall.

Bless you friends…..

 

Rolain

 

Failure as a Teacher!

Everyone has failed at one time or the other. Failing is painful but it is necessary if we are to grow and mature. Everyone fails and that is a fact but why is failing key to growth? Why should we embrace failure and not run from it when it comes? I believe failure makes you stronger and it sets your bounce back power for other battles. Let me give you a real life example of what I mean.

When I was still trying to get my drivers license I was met with failure after failure. It was hard for me especially when friends of mine were just getting theirs just like that. One month turned to two months then four months then a year until it got to two years!! I cried, and shouted at God. I could not understand it. There came a time I even gave up! I didn’t want to hear about driving or cars or driving tests. After months of not trying I realized I had to try again. Eventually after a total of 28 attempts I got my license!!! It was one of my best days ever but I realized how I could of set a low level for myself by either giving up and making excuses or buying my license which I was advised to do and which was very easy to do and still is!  If I had done either of those two things I would of set my level for other challenges that would come my way. I would of given up or made excuses or even bribed my way out of a problem but instead when a problem came I found myself enduring and pushing and refusing to give up!!! Where did that come from? I believe it came from not giving up in previous battles. As i kept pushing I was getting stronger. It comes from seeing failure as a teacher and not an obstacle that can’t be overcome! God needed me to be stronger on the inside so He allowed failure to come.

Failure is a teacher, a hard teacher but one which will get you to where God wants you to be if you will react in the right way. Don’t be afraid to fail. You will need failure if you are to succeed! The two work hand in hand. Just because you have failed at something doesn’t mean you are a loser, it just means you have failed. Get up and try again. If you fail again get up and try yet again. Your failures don’t define you, trusting God and you taking a stand does!

Failures are not meant to destroy you but they are there to prepare you for the next storm, they are there to make you stronger.

God bless

Rolain