How He grows your faith…….


“When Jesus looked out and saw that a large crowd had arrived, He said 

to Philip, “Where can we buy bread to feed these people?”

He said this to stretch Philip’s faith. He already knew what He 

was going to do. John 6:5, 6

 

When Jesus and Philip looked out at the large crowd what did they see?

Philip saw an impossible situation! In his mind it was an impossible situation!

Jesus saw something different when He looked out at the crowd. He knew exactly what He was going to do. Philip on the other hand saw obstacles and barriers but Jesus wanted to stretch his faith.

I have been meditating on this verse for a couple of days now. It is such a powerful scripture…..

We are like Philip in many ways. There are situations in our lives where we look and think, “impossible”! How am I going to do this or do that? How, how , how……but Jesus already knows what He is going to do!

You may be freaking out because you can’t see a way out or a solution but Jesus sees, He has the solution!

But He won’t just come and sort it out, like Philip He is asking us the same question,

Where can we buy bread to feed these people?”

He wants to stretch our faith. What was impossible in Philip’s mind was possible in Jesus’s mind! He didn’t see barriers, limitations, roadblocks or anything like that………

As long as there is faith, the impossible does not exist! Jesus wants to stretch our faith!  No matter what impossible situation you are facing please know that Jesus has the answer. He wants you to be able to face any situation and know He has the answer!!!! No matter how big, no matter how impossible, He want’s you to know He has the answer. Philip had faith in God but Jesus knew his faith in Him had to grow, it had to be stretched!! I am comforted to know that Jesus wants to stretch my faith! I want my faith to grow……There is so much bad happening around me that the only way to get out of it is to have strong faith in Him! Having strong faith will not erase the situation, instead it will help me walk through it with peace and confidence that He is in control!!! He is so good!

Rolain

 

 

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How to pray for your future wife!


This post is a response to a post I read a few days ago, a post that  challenged me to the core. If you are a single woman I urge you to read it. The title of the post is called, “Dear Future Husband” and it is written by Samantha Hardcastle. You can read it here.

Men, I urge you to read it as well. It is an excellently written post and I think as men we need to know the kind of women we want and Samantha does a great job of holding up a Proverbs 31 woman. Anyway, let’s start. After reading the post I realized how important it is for us as men to do our part. We too need to pray for our wives. Samantha says,

‘These women don’t know if he has brown hair or orange hair – if he enjoys his coffee black or sweet – or if he’s been through hell and back. But they all share a common thread that all too easily, could be a lost art in one’s love life – and that is the act of praying.”

Men, prayer is important. Prayer is powerful and not to be taken lightly. I say that to you and to myself as a reminder. But I would like to go further with this because as men our responsibility is so much greater not because God made men better than women, but because God has a plan. We are to be the head. We are called to lead our families. We are called to protect and take care of them. The responsibility we have been given is very serious. So the question stands, how are we as men to pray for our wives?

I mentioned the first point. The actually act of praying is very important and key.

For the second point I would like to share something else from Samantha’s post,

“As I go through my past letters, a common theme I have prayed over him is that He would be a bold man for the things of God, bold in loving others, bold in living selflessly, bold in risking his personal comfort for more of Jesus. A man who is bold is the kind of man I want to hold”.

Another way of praying for your future wife is by preparing yourself in your singleness.

What habits need to be changed now? We don’t start when we get married, no! We start now. Ask God to show you habits that are not honoring to Him and ask your closest friends about the things you do that annoy them. Maybe you talk with food in your mouth or people can hear you from the other side of the world when you eat. Maybe you like getting up late every day or maybe you can’t resist flirting with other women, I don’t know. Just change habits that need to be changed.

Have a vision. As a man you are going to lead your family but how will you lead if you don’t have a vision? Let me rephrase that. How can you lead your family if you don’t know what your purpose is? Everyone has a purpose from God. Ask God to show you His purpose for your life.

Seek God with all of your heart. I put this third but it’s actually the most important thing a man can do. Without God we are nothing. He must be first in your life. He must be your consuming passion. He must be the one who occupies your thoughts constantly. He must be the one that completes you. Please listen to me on this point. A woman will not complete you. God is the only one, I repeat , the only one who will complete you…..The media has lied to us through movies and music that a man or woman will complete us but that is so not true. GOD IS THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL COMPLETE YOU. Ladies, if you find yourself relying on a man for meaning and purpose then you have been deceived! God is the only one who can give you that.

I will stop there for today. I have lots to share but I will stop there. I hope you got the gist of what I am saying. As men we need to pray for our wives too. They need our prayers as we need their prayers……It’s a two way thing.  Be vigilant; don’t take the assignment you have been given by God lightly. Your future wife is depending on you, she is praying for you!

Rolain

What God’s goodness has to do with the Sun and a Shield……..!


I am currently doing a bible study on discovering the will of God. The book I am using is really something. It is unique in the way it tackles questions about God’s will. I started about a month ago and I have learned so much already. I came across a question that I have been meditating on for quite some time now. And it is this question and portion of the study I would like to share with you. I am sure it will be a blessing to someone.

What I will do is write down the questions and the answers I put down. The scripture used is really amazing. Here goes….
Psalm 84:11 is an outstanding verse on how good God is. Meditate on the verse, then answer the following questions.
(I used the Amplified Bible to answer this question.)
For The Lord God is a Sun and Shield; The Lord bestows [present] grace and favor and 
[future] glory (honour, splendor, and heavenly bliss)! No good thing will He withhold from
Those who walk uprightly. Psalm 84:11 (Amplified) 
What two things is God like? What does each of these do for us? 
My answer – He is like the Sun and a Shield. 
The Sun brings light. It also brings life! 
A shield protects us. 

The Lord is a Sun…..

As He is the Sun the darkness in my life can do nothing but flee. Darkness cannot reside in the light. The Sun comes to shine in the dark places within me. It comes to give those dead things in me life…..! 
As a Shield He protects me from ALL the weapons the enemy fashions against me. No weapon can hurt me or destroy me. He is my Shield! 
What does God do? 
My answer – He bestows [present] grace and [future] glory (honour, splendor and heavenly bliss)!
What does He not do? 
He does NOT withhold any good thing from me! No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly. 

and a Shield!!!!

– How do these truths help you? 
Firstly these truths encourage me. They give me hope. They strengthen me. They give me confidence to face the challenges on my path. 
They give me boldness as I go to Him. 
And that is it. As you read the questions take time to meditate on them. Use whichever version is easy for you. The Amplified gave a deeper meaning for me. The truths you find will give you the hope you need. He is our Sun and Shield!!!
Rolain.

The Compromise of the Calling…..


 

 

We all agree that God has a destiny for each and everyone of us. No matter who you are or how you were brought up or where you lived, God has a destiny for you. Like the people of God you have a purpose and a calling. I would like to make a point but to do so we need to look at a few scriptures. Let us look at Judges 1:19:

The Lord was with Judah, and [Judah] drove out the inhabitants of the hill country, but he could not drive out those inhabiting the [difficult] valley basin because they had chariots of iron.

But the Benjamites did not drive out the Jebusites who inhabited Jerusalem; the Jebusites dwell with the Benjaminites in Jerusalem to this day. Judges 1:21

Neither did Manasseh  drive out the inhabitants of Beth-shean and it’s villages, or of Taanach or Dor or Ibleam or Megiddo and their villages, but the Canaanites remained in that land.
Judges 1:27

As you read the rest of the chapter you will see a trend. You will see how Israel failed to drive out the inhabitants of the land. They compromised the call of God. They were specifically told to destroy the nations around them but they couldn’t. Why?

The promise God has for us is not easy to attain! We see this clearly shown in the scriptures I just wrote. Walking the path God has for you is not for the faint-hearted! It is hard, and difficult to attain. God was speaking to Joshua and this is what He told him as he was about to get into the promise land:

No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will not fail you or forsake you.
Be strong (confident) and of good courage, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land which I swore to their fathers to give them.
Only you be strong and very courageous, that you may do according to all the law which Moses My servant commanded you, Turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may prosper wherever you go. Judges 1:7

Have not I commanded you? Be strong, vigorous, and very courageous. Be not afraid, neither be dismayed, for The Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9

Is it possible that Israel compromised because they didn’t understand what it really meant to walk into the promise land? Did they expect it to be a walk in the park? Did they not know it was going to be difficult?
Walking into what God has for you is not only difficult but impossible!!! In our own strength we don’t stand a chance,it would be better to give up right now.

When Moses told all this to the people of Israel, they mourned long and hard. But early the next morning they started out for the high hill country saying, We’re here; we’re ready – let’s go up and attack the land that God promised us. We sinned, but now we’re ready – let’s go up and attack the land that God promised us. We sinned, but now we’re ready.” Numbers 14: 39-45

We all know the story. The Isralites were defeated. They could not take the land in their own strength. This is what I would like you to see.
God has a calling and purpose for us. In the natural, it is impossible to accomplish it. The only way to walk in your purpose is to trust God. You will accomplish all He has for you when you look to Him and rely Him.
But even with all that said, to accomplish our purpose we need to be strong and very courageous. It takes a strong person, a person who knows who he is in God to accomplish his purpose!

God will not leave you alone. He will not expect you to finish the race on your own because He knows you can’t do it. We compromise the call of God on our lives when we think we can do it by ourselves in our own strength. The truth is we can’t. God is with us willing to help us. We just need to ask Him for help. As you trust in Him, He will help you and strengthen you.

I can see where God is leading me to next in my walk with Him. I also see it’s going to need me to be strong and courageous as I walk with Him. I also see without Him I will fail, no doubt but in the midst of all that I am confident He is with me. He will not let me down. And so it is with you. As you pursue the desires God has put in your heart know that He is by your side. There will be days when you will feel like giving up but just keep pressing on. He will bring you to the other side! He is good indeed!

Rolain

 

The “Gifts” God gives us…..!


I don’t know where to start and I don’t know how to begin this post. All I can say is that the word “gift” has

taken a whole new meaning for me. A few months ago I found out my friend, was leaving the country for good! We were first friends, then he became my boss, then pastor, then mentor, then family!

My world turned upside down that day. I had people leave before and it was painful but this, this was a whole new level.

My pastor’s wife called me and sat me down as she told me the news. I was devastated and confused. Why God I asked?

This can’t be happening I thought. I had known my mentor’s family for over 10 years! I knew them when they

had their first son. They have four boys now and I love them to bits.  Anyway I remember going to God and

crying out to Him for answers to the question why. Nothing came. Instead revelation came……

 

God showed me how they were gifts from Him. I met my mentor when I had just met The Lord. I am a sinner

now but back then I was much worse. If there is a word worse than sinner I was it. I was truly lost. I had no

direction and no plan. I had crazy issues I was beginning to work out. I had just became a Christian and this new

life was still…..new! I was dealing with a lot of things. I had no confidence and I had no self esteem. When he

employed me a year after meeting him I stole money from him! It was that bad. I WAS that bad! But thank God he never fired me or called the police. He gave me a second chance…….

 

I didn’t trust anyone back then and when he tried to help me out I would think he had some evil intension! When he disciplined me at work I would take it personally. When he made a joke about me I would get extremely angry. My stuttering was so bad back then which didn’t really help things! So believe me when I say, things were bad back then, really bad!!!

But God used him and his wife to mold me into who God wanted me to be. They taught me so much. They stood by

me when I had family issues. They helped me out financially countless times. They sat down and taught me so much

about God and life. In one of the darkest times in my life they were there.

 

God showed me how that was not an accident.

He knew all the change that needed to happen in me. He saw all I was going through and because of that He sent them

into my life. They were gifts. We serve a God who is the giver of gifts but the mistake we make is thinking gifts come in the form of money only. That’s not true. God’s gifts are so much more than money. They are deeper than that. During that time I never thought of them as gifts. We had our good times together and we had hard and difficult times.

 

The fact of the matter is this. God sent me gifts in the form of my mentor and his family. I just didn’t know it at the time and I never gave them the honor they rightly deserved. I wish I never took them for granted. I wish I honored them more and thanked them more for all they had done for me. I can’t put into words all that they did for me. A lot of who I am is because of their input in my life.

They saw so much potential in me and stood by me patiently. They are my family. I am telling you all this because….

…….they left on Wednesday this week! It’s been a hard week I must admit. They had my back. But in the midst of the pain God showed me how He will bring other “gifts” into my life after all; those “gifts” came from Him. He is the giver of all gifts. My mentor and his family never willed or planned to do all they did for me. God was behind it all. My mentor never knew the kind of impact he would have in my life but God did because He planned it. God was behind it all……

Yes, I am sad and broken at them leaving but I am also at peace because God has some amazing “gifts” in store for me.

I pray I be a “gift” to someone else as well. Would God use me to be the kind of “gift” my mentor was to me……

 

Have you acknowledged the “gifts” God has put in your life? There is a reason He has placed them in your life.

Don’t take them for granted. Thank them for all they are doing for you. It is not easy for them. There is always a

sacrifice on their part. May we always appreciate the “gifts” God has given us, always!

 

 

* This post is dedicated to the Stewart family. *

The Stewart family!

The Stewart family!

 

Rolain.

Finding Peace In The Storm.


I believe a storm is either coming your way or you in a storm right now or one has just passed!! The crazy thing about this situation is, storms are vital for growth. If you are to become all God has for you then you need storms, we ALL need storms! We don’t pray for storms to come but we pray that we will learn what we are supposed to learn and see what we are supposed to see and grow from it. With that said, how are we supposed to carry ourselves in a storm? Storms will always come but how do we deal with them? Your attitude determines everything when you are in a storm. So it is important what kind of attitude you have. It will determine if you are victorious or if you fail.
Proverbs 15:15 says,
All the days of the desponding and afflicted are made evil [by anxious thoughts and forebodings], but he who has a glad heart has a continual feast [regardless of circumstances].
The word foreboding is an interesting word because it implies a feeling of coming evil. Predicting evil in your life is not being realistic and it is not God’s way. In fact that is the type of attitude that will stop your breakthrough in the midst of the storm. Anxious thoughts and forebodings are short circuiting your growth! The right attitude is key when you are in a storm.
King David is a great example of what your attitude should be like in the midst of a storm. In Psalm 57 we are given a lot of insight into King David’s attitude. This psalm was written when King David was fleeing from Saul and he was hiding in a cave!! He was in a really bad place. King Saul was trying to kill him and he was hiding in a cave! Here are a few things that I see:

– The first thing to note is King David doesn’t ask for the death of his enemy. He doesn’t complain and grumble about why he is where he is. Instead he looks to God. This is what he says,
Be merciful and gracious to me, O God, for my soul takes refuge and shelter and confidence in You; yes, in the shadow of Your wings will I take refuge and be confident until calamities and destructive storms are passed. Psalms 57:1

Where are you focused during a storm? Are you panicking and fretting? God wants you to look to Him. He is the Lord over your storm. He is in control and I think King David knew that.

– The other thing to note is the way he spoke. In the midst of the storm, running away from Saul who was trying to kill him, hiding away in a dark cold cave he was speaking life over his situation!!! Speaking about God he says,
He will send from heaven and save me from the slanders and reproaches of him who would trample me down or swallow me up, and He will put him to shame.
Selah [pause, and calmly think of that]! God will send forth His mercy and loving-kindness and His truth and faithfulness. Psalms 57:3

What is coming out of your mouth during the storm? King David spoke the answer, He spoke God!! Are you speaking more death by complaining and whining or are you speaking God into your situation?? That is something to think about.

– The next point is so important. King David praised God. There is something powerful when we praise God. King David was a worshiper and we need to learn to praise God when we are in a storm. Praising God puts things in the right perspective. Praising God will help you focus on the right thing, God!

Be exalted, O God,above the heavens! Let Your glory be over all the earth!
Psalms 57:5

In the midst of the storms of life we need to worship God. As we do that we magnify God in our lives. Our troubles will seem smaller against a Great and Mighty God because they are! God is bigger than any problem we will ever face!!

– The last thing I would like to highlight is where his heart is at. King David had his heart fixed on God and that needs to be the same for us. In the midst of the storm King David’s heart was fixed on God. It was not focused on what was happening around him but on God!

My heart is fixed, O God, my heart is steadfast and confident! I will sing and make melody. Psalms 57:7

Is your heart fixed on God? Have you made  decision to focus on God? It so hard to focus on God when everything is going crazy around you. I know, I have been there. We need to make a decision to focus on God. Like I said, our attitude in the midst of a storm determines everything!

God wants us to grow and become more like Him. Will you embrace the storms of life or run away from them? It’s your decision….

Rolain

Has My Free Access Before God Being Denied??


Free Access Before God Denied???
I was having my time with God when a scripture jumped out at me. It made me think about how my approach before God has been. The scripture is in Ephesians 3:12 and it says;
In whom, because of our faith in Him, we dare to have the boldness (courage and confidence) of free access (an unreserved approach to God with freedom and without fear).

So as I am reading the verse I realise that I am not that confident before God. I am not unreserved in my approach to God all the time. But we are meant to come to God in boldness and in confidence without fear.
But why do a lot of us come to Him afraid and unsure? Something is very wrong if we can’t. I want to come to the Lord in boldness and confidence all the time. He is my Father. He really loves me. I want to be unreserved in my approach to Him without fear or doubt.

As I was thinking about all this there were a few things that came to mind. I am fearful in my approach to God because of sin. I know God says I am forgiven when I confess my sin but sometimes I think He is still angry with me. Are you in the same boat? Is there sin that you have committed that you think God cannot forgive? God is true to His word when He says He has forgiven us. God wants us to come to Him boldly.

The other thing that could be a hinderance is having a lack of faith that God hears our prayers. But He does. The word says He delights in our prayers. He loves the prayer of a righteous man. He hears your prayers. He doesn’t disregard them.
The goal is to come to God in boldness and confidence without fear. We need to have an unreserved approach to God. He is our Father who loves us deeply.

The key is coming to God in faith. It is because of our faith that we come to Him in confidence and boldness. It is through faith that we eradicate fear and doubt.

We have free access to God by faith. Let us go to Him in boldness.

Rolain.P

Even In Death?!


There was a time when I was going through a very very tough ordeal. I had no one to look to. I had no help. It seemed like all was lost. My faith had been crushed. I thought I was done for.
All I had was God. He had to come through or else I was finished. That is how bad my situation was. As I was seeking God, He gave me this scripture:
The wicked is overthrown through his wrongdoing and calamity, but the [consistently] righteous has hope and confidence even in death. Proverbs 15:32

I have shared this verse in a post before but not like this.
I would like to share it with you. I hope it helps you in tough times like it did for me.
The part of scripture that spoke to me was the last half which said “but the [consistently] righteous has hope and confidence even in death.

The Word is powerful because it creates amazing pictures of how life is to be lived, of who we really are, of our Lord Jesus Christ and much much more.
So here I was in my pain and feeling like I was done for and then God spoke to me through this scripture.
I have been made righteous by what Jesus did for me on the Cross. As a righteous person I was to have hope and confidence even in death! What a mind changing principle.
I realised that no matter how bad things where I needed to have hope and confidence in God even in death, even when things seemed dark, even when things seemed hopeless. And I realised that was the essence of faith. Despite the chaos and confusion happening around me I needed to look to God and trust Him. Even in death I was to look to God!
And that is what I did and continue doing.

What struggles are you facing? Do you feel like giving up? Are you tired of waiting for God? Are you in a life and death situation?
God is calling us to have hope and confidence in Him even in death!
He is calling us to do that because He will deliver us. Don’t give up. Things may seem hopeless but there is hope. Things may seem dead but there is life. Things may seem dark but light has come.
There is one thing that you must always fight for and that is your faith in God. The enemy will always try to destroy your hope in God. But as humans we need hope. We cannot do without it. He will try and crush it because if he does he has won.
But as sons and daughters of God we must look to God even in death! Even in death!
He can be trusted. . . .

My faith and Your faith- part 2.


In part two of this three part faith series i am going to try and explain how faith should be used.
I am going to base my hypothesis on two scriptures. Let us look at Psalm 84:12 – O Lord of hosts, blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) is the man who trusts in You [leaning and believing on You, committing all and confidently looking to You, and that without fear or misgiving]!
The second scripture is very similar to the first scripture that i have just shared.
Incline Your ear, O Lord and answer me, for i am poor and distressed, needy and desiring.
Preserve my life, for i am godly and dedicated; O my God, save Your servant, for i trust in You [leaning and believing on You, committing all and confidently looking to You, without fear or doubt]. Psalm 86:1,2.

These two scriptures have a lot of similarities. But they also contain a very important aspect of faith a lot of us forget.
The first scripture in Psalm 85:12 is talking about how blessed the man is who trusts in God. You are blessed if you trust God according to the word. But the Amplified version goes on and expounds on what it means to trust God. According to the Amplified version trust means to lean on, believe on and confidently look to God without fear and misgivings. That is how trust is defined.

I believe faith really works when we CONFIDENTLY look to God. And the confidence stems from a knowing that God is true to His word and He will never let us down no matter what.
A lot of people have faith but they are in fear. They are struggling with doubt every step of the way. But we need to take it a step further . We may have fear in the midst of our faith but we need to learn to silence it. Fear is a natural reaction but when it begins to get in the way of our faith in God that is when it needs to be dealt with. The second scripture i shared says we should trust God without fear or doubt. These are the two enemies of faith, fear and doubt! These terrible two have the ability to short circuit the blessings of God in our lives. God wants us to trust Him and be confident in His power without succumbing to fear and doubt.
These terrible two need to be destroyed at all costs. They are the reason your faith is not working.
Another thing i want you to see from these two scriptures is that faith is also about attitude. Being confident is not just an external attitude but something internal. It’s about knowing in the deepest part of you that God can be trusted and nothing being able to shake that.
If we say we trust God but we have doubts and fears which are not dealt with then we seriously need to examine our definition of faith.
I remember on various occasions that i would still have fear even after i decided to trust God. I could not understand it. I thought the fear would instantly leave as soon as i made a decision to trust God but i was wrong. It always seemed to be there. Until i realised that i needed to bring that fear under the authority of Jesus Christ. I would still trust God despite the fear i felt and after a while the fear whould lessen. That is what you need to do when you in fear. If doubt comes which i am sure it will you need to hold on to the word He gave you.
So remember, faith works when you are confident that God has heard you and is working on your behalf. It also works when you fight against fear and doubt.
And that concludes the second part of my faith series. I pray it helps you in your walk with God.

Rolain.P

Stuttering- Triggers.


In my previous post i was discussing what i think the cure for stuttering is. I really believe that the cure is confidence. The more confident you become the less you stutter. But it is possible to be confident but still stutter. How does that happen?
This is the question that i will be dealing with in this post.
There is an answer to that question. Let me use myself as an example. I had been applying the steps i have been sharing with you, like changing how i see myself, getting rid of the labels people put on me, being a man of conviction and others. I was really seeing change. I was really excited. But as months went on i still stuttered. It was confusing not to mention frustrating. I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t know what was going on.

But then i saw it. One day i saw a pattern. There were times where i was confident and other times when i was not. Those times i was not were almost the same all the time. I could see the pattern clearly. The times i stuttered the most was when i was talking to people who had authority. God showed me that the abuse from my dad is what caused me to stutter. My dad was the authority head in the family and as a young boy i became scared of him which caused me to stutter. Fast forward a few years and i saw how i was scared of people in authority. I had no confidence in front of teachers, coaches, and bosses. I never knew how to relate to them. I could not communicate with them especially if that authority head was harsh. That was just the worst.
So picture this: I am at school and i am afraid of people in authority which in this case is my teacher and headmaster and prefect. My teacher asks me to read something which i stutter through. The teacher doesn’t understand stuttering so he ridicules me which encourages the students to also make fun of me. That is how i can describe a large chunk of what school was like for me.
But that all started because of what i experienced at home. That was a trigger and it had to dealt with.
What are your triggers? What are the things that cause you to stutter? You need to deal with them and get over them. If you are confident but you stutter then you have a trigger or triggers. It is possible to have more than one. I had two main triggers. If you need help please don’t hesitate to ask me. I will help where i can. The important thing is to confront it face on. That’s what i did. I will be writing about different ways you can do that. Some of the steps that i have written can help you. You are not alone in this.

The other trigger for me was reading. I would stutter whenever i would read. And that was because of what happened at school. People made fun of me when i would read. So when i started working i would avoid reading in public like a plague. If i did read i would stutter which solidified even more why i should not read. No one laughed straight to my face but i would think they were laughing. I was highly critical of everyone i met. In the back of my mind i would think they were all laughing at me. It was bad. And that also had to be dealt with. I am much better now. Those triggers are gone but i have work at keeping them that way. Do i fall at times, yes! There are times when i don’t apply what i have learnt. But those times are rare and getting more rare by the day.

The triggers in your life can be abolished. But it takes time and support. You can’t do this by yourself. Ask God to show you what the triggers are in your life. That is what He did for me. I had no one to help me. But God was there. And He can do the same for you. I am also here to help you.
All you have to do is ask.
I hope this post helped. If you have any questions just ask me. If you need help i will do the best that i can. If you have anything to contribute please feel free to post it. That ends my post on triggers and i look forward to hearing from you.

Rolain.P