How to pray for your future wife!

This post is a response to a post I read a few days ago, a post that  challenged me to the core. If you are a single woman I urge you to read it. The title of the post is called, “Dear Future Husband” and it is written by Samantha Hardcastle. You can read it here.

Men, I urge you to read it as well. It is an excellently written post and I think as men we need to know the kind of women we want and Samantha does a great job of holding up a Proverbs 31 woman. Anyway, let’s start. After reading the post I realized how important it is for us as men to do our part. We too need to pray for our wives. Samantha says,

‘These women don’t know if he has brown hair or orange hair – if he enjoys his coffee black or sweet – or if he’s been through hell and back. But they all share a common thread that all too easily, could be a lost art in one’s love life – and that is the act of praying.”

Men, prayer is important. Prayer is powerful and not to be taken lightly. I say that to you and to myself as a reminder. But I would like to go further with this because as men our responsibility is so much greater not because God made men better than women, but because God has a plan. We are to be the head. We are called to lead our families. We are called to protect and take care of them. The responsibility we have been given is very serious. So the question stands, how are we as men to pray for our wives?

I mentioned the first point. The actually act of praying is very important and key.

For the second point I would like to share something else from Samantha’s post,

“As I go through my past letters, a common theme I have prayed over him is that He would be a bold man for the things of God, bold in loving others, bold in living selflessly, bold in risking his personal comfort for more of Jesus. A man who is bold is the kind of man I want to hold”.

Another way of praying for your future wife is by preparing yourself in your singleness.

What habits need to be changed now? We don’t start when we get married, no! We start now. Ask God to show you habits that are not honoring to Him and ask your closest friends about the things you do that annoy them. Maybe you talk with food in your mouth or people can hear you from the other side of the world when you eat. Maybe you like getting up late every day or maybe you can’t resist flirting with other women, I don’t know. Just change habits that need to be changed.

Have a vision. As a man you are going to lead your family but how will you lead if you don’t have a vision? Let me rephrase that. How can you lead your family if you don’t know what your purpose is? Everyone has a purpose from God. Ask God to show you His purpose for your life.

Seek God with all of your heart. I put this third but it’s actually the most important thing a man can do. Without God we are nothing. He must be first in your life. He must be your consuming passion. He must be the one who occupies your thoughts constantly. He must be the one that completes you. Please listen to me on this point. A woman will not complete you. God is the only one, I repeat , the only one who will complete you…..The media has lied to us through movies and music that a man or woman will complete us but that is so not true. GOD IS THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL COMPLETE YOU. Ladies, if you find yourself relying on a man for meaning and purpose then you have been deceived! God is the only one who can give you that.

I will stop there for today. I have lots to share but I will stop there. I hope you got the gist of what I am saying. As men we need to pray for our wives too. They need our prayers as we need their prayers……It’s a two way thing.  Be vigilant; don’t take the assignment you have been given by God lightly. Your future wife is depending on you, she is praying for you!


13 thoughts on “How to pray for your future wife!

  1. Hello love, truly much appreciation for the importance of prayer and even more for impact that men make in the lives of their families present and future. A man should never ever underestimate the role they play as the head of the family or who God has created and called them to be which is great because they where created out of greatness and destined to lead with authority, power and love. Valarie

    • Thank you Valarie!
      Men do need to rise up and take their place. If we don’t we leave our families exposed to the enemy! The world needs strong men. When I say strong I mean men who know who their God is and who allow God to guide and lead them.
      Bless you….

  2. Rolain, I couldn’t agree more. But specifically everything you wrote in point 3: “Seek God with all of your heart.” This couldn’t be more critical and so important for all of us. God must always always always always always come first. He must be our first love, above all else in life. We must continue to seek Him daily to fill us with His love and to complete us.

    “8 Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ. 9 For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.” Colossians 2:8-10

    We are complete in Him! Praise Him for His wonderful works! Great post!

  3. Beautiful post so full of wisdom! It couldn’t be more true.The media has lied to us & many of us tend to think that someone has the ability to complete us but praying & our strong dependence on God is something we are loosing. This is a great post & I would like to share this with my boyfriend & my friends that are loosing hope in love.

    • I am glad you liked this post and please feel free to share it. The enemy is working overtime to deceive us but we can’t let him. As young people I think we need more role models who will show us the right way. Who will challenge what the media is saying and show us the truth! Thank you for your comment and have a great weekend!!


  4. Amen!! Prayer is powerful and transforming, it will do wonders for our future and our spouses when we start lifting them up to God long before we meet them! These are such great remainders for all young men of how to pray and prepare for the future God has in store for them with their future wife. Thank you for sharing this!

    • I too was inspired by reading Samantha’s post. Reading those stories of women praying for their husbands really opened my eyes and gave me hope. God is faithful and He wants us to set high standards when it comes to waiting for the One. and that is why i wrote this post. May God help us men as we honor Him by waiting for our wives in a way that is honoring to them and to God. Thank you Anna.


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