I have been in Kenya for almost a week. I went on a music tour with my church which was amazing. I got back last night. So I will share some of my experiences and things God showed me while in Kenya. But this post is not about how my trip went but it’s about the things I learned concerning being a man. Here is what I learned……
– Every time we go on tour the men HAVE to carry the ladies suitcases. We have to offload their bags and carry them to their rooms. I thought our leaders were being unreasonable at first. They had no idea how heavy those suitcases were. The women never packed light and in my mind I thought they should have to suffer for the way they packed their suitcases. “Let me carry their own suitcases so they learn to pack lighter” was my other thought! mean right?!!! hahaha
– As men there is always an expectation to lead. In prayer men should lead, in devotionals we need to be the first ones to take the responsibility to share. This was a hard lesson because there were times I didn’t feel like leading. I didn’t want to be the one who carried such a weight…..
– As men we were told to protect the women. Our job was to protect the women on tour. Protect them by not singling them out. Treat them all the same. There should be no favoritism. Treat them like sisters is what we were told. Don’t play with their feelings by leading them on.
I despised all these things and more but this time around as I was loading all the ladies luggage onto our shuttle with a few other men I realized something. I am glad for all those lessons I was taught by my leaders. They taught us how to lead the women in our lives in love, they taught us how to be real men. They showed us the value of being a man. I am glad I was made the way I was, a man! We have a a mandate from God. We were made the head for a reason. I don’t mind carrying the ladies luggage now!! I welcome it…haha. But this is not only about carrying luggage…..it’s about embracing the things that make me a man. God created us men to be strong, to lead, to be the head.
God has a special calling on the men! If there was a time when men were desperately needed to take their place it is now! The world needs men of God. Men who trust in God. Men who know who they are in Christ. Men who take care of their families, love their wives, guide their children in the way of The Lord. May we be the men God has called us to be!
You are so right, Rolain. We need more Godly men. Men who will not desert their children, pay the child support they are suppose to, and love their wives as Christ loves the church. I’m so glad your leaders taught you to be the man Christ wants you to be. It sounds like the Lord did a bit of an attitude adjustment in you. 🙂 Good for Him and good for you!
It was a MAJOR attitude adjustment Sue….hahaha
But I am glad for it. I am glad to be that man.
This is awesome! I need to send this to all the missionary leaders I know before they go on their trips so they can prepare their men well 😉 I agree, men do need to step up and lead and fulfill their calling and it’s our job as women to do whatever we can to help you guys with that. Great post Rolain. Be blessed!
I have to admit it took some time to learn that and yes, we do need help from the women. Everyonet needs to know their place. When we do we can fulfil God’s call….