His heart breaks for you….


 I was on a plane to Kenya when I read this scripture. It ministered to me so much. We serve a God whose heart breaks for us…..
Then Jesus made a circuit of all the towns and villages. He taught in their meeting places, reported kingdom news, and healed their diseased bodies, healed their bruised and hurt lives.

When He looked out over the crowds, His heart broke. So confused and aimless they were, like sheep with no shepherd. Matthew 9:35-38
This is our story. We were once aimless without direction, without hope but He came and saved us. He gave us hope, He gave us direction.
He saw us in our broken state and repaired us. He healed us.
He healed our diseased bodies and hearts.
He healed our bruised and hurt lives.
“When He looked out over the crowds, His heart broke. So confused and aimless they were, like sheep with no shepherd.”
The Lord’s heart breaks for us. He sees the pain we go through and his heart breaks.
He sees our tears and His heart breaks.
 He heals us, cares and mends our lives. He hates seeing us confused. He wants us healed.
This is what I was shown on the plane on my way to Kenya. This is day 1. He is so good……..His heart breaks for us!
Rolain

I despised being a man…..!


 

I have been in Kenya for almost a week. I went on a music tour with my church which was amazing. I got back last night. So I will share some of my experiences and things God showed me while in Kenya. But this post is not about how my trip went but it’s about the things I learned concerning being a man. Here is what I learned……

– Every time we go on tour the men HAVE to carry the ladies suitcases. We have to offload their bags and carry them to their rooms. I thought our leaders were being unreasonable at first. They had no idea how heavy those suitcases were. The women never packed light and in my mind I thought they should have to suffer for the way they packed their suitcases. “Let me carry their own suitcases so they learn to pack lighter” was my other thought!  mean right?!!!    hahaha
– As men there is always an expectation to lead. In prayer men should lead, in devotionals we need to be the first ones to take the responsibility to share. This was a hard lesson because there were times I didn’t feel like leading. I didn’t want to be the one who carried such a weight…..
– As men we were told to protect the women. Our job was to protect the women on tour. Protect them by not singling them out. Treat them all the same. There should be no favoritism. Treat them like sisters is what we were told. Don’t play with their feelings by leading them on.
I despised all these things and more but this time around as I was loading all the ladies luggage onto our shuttle with a few other men I realized something. I am glad for all those lessons I was taught by my leaders. They taught us how to lead the women in our lives in love, they taught us how to be real men. They showed us the value of being a man. I am glad I was made the way I was, a man! We have a a mandate from God. We were made the head for a reason. I don’t mind carrying the ladies luggage now!! I welcome it…haha. But this is not only about carrying luggage…..it’s about embracing the things that make me a man. God created us men to be strong, to lead, to be the head.
God has a special calling on the men! If there was a time when men were desperately needed to take their place it is now! The world needs men of God. Men who trust in God. Men who know who they are in Christ. Men who take care of their families, love their wives, guide their children in the way of The Lord. May we be the men God has called us to be!
Rolain

What you need to know about prayer…….


I was reading my word when a few scriptures jumped out at me. The scriptures were talking about prayer and I was in desperate need of the reminder, I just didn’t know it yet! Prayer is so powerful. We are nothing without prayer. Let us look at the first scripture:

1. In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God for instance without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part. Matthew 6:14-15

This scripture just confirms what I have been taught about prayer. We have a part to play in prayer!

For example, if you are praying to God to live a long and healthy life, are you doing the things that will help you live healthier like exercising, eating healthy and so on. Is it not crazy to pray to live a long healthy life when you are living a life that totally jeopardizes your health? You smoke, drink, eat junk every single day, don’t exercise but at the same time you pray for a long healthy life! Are you getting the picture? This is just is one example though. When we pray we should ask God to show us what our part in whatever we are praying about is. God doesn’t want you to do everything. He wants you to do your part as a declaration of where your faith is at!

Your friend may be sick and your part could be to send them a get well card or encourage them. So pray and go do what God shows you to do.

I believed God wanted me to go on music tours but I had no money so I prayed but my part in all of this was to go and ask people for help. I had to step out and go ask for help. What is your part in what you are praying?

2. Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need, this isn’t a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. Matthew 7:7-11

Does this need any further explanation? Be direct with God. I struggled with this because I thought something’s were just too much for God. “What if it’s not what God wants” is what I asked myself. This was a very challenging word indeed! Because of circumstances and sin and other things I am not direct in prayer but God wants us to be direct! We don’t need to beat around the bush. We need to be bold as we come to Him.

And those are the two things I wanted to share about prayer……

 

The weakest link.


Today was a real eye opener for me. We have been teaching the kids about praise and worship for two weeks and today was the last week of the teaching. God really came down and touched the kids and I will boldly say we had a tangible manifestation of God’s presence. Words fail to express how amazing the service was.

 

But this was the eye opener for me – I never prepared sufficiently for the service. It was important for me to have planned because I am the one who decided on having a time in the year where we have a service specifically dedicated to teaching our kids the importance of praise and worship. I have been doing this for 6years and this was the 7th. But like I said, I did not plan sufficiently. I was not prayed up enough. I was not ready for today. I had feelings to deal with as well. I felt guilty for the sin I committed through out the week and thought it inappropriate to ask God for His help. I was not ready on all levels.

I realized how in this relationship I am the weakest link. I haven’t brought anything to the table. My contribution to this relationship is nothing…..I am the weakest link but unlike the game where the weakest link gets eliminated, God still works with me. He doesn’t eliminate me but bestows me with His grace. He covers my faults with His amazing grace and mercy. I was blown away today because God’s presence came down and touched the kids not because I had been prepared or prayed up, or because I was smart enough but He used me in spite of that! ! And thinking about that I realize how that happens everyday. We are the weakest link in our relationship with God but He stays with us. He still gives us a purpose that is bigger than we can imagine and loves us. He doesn’t tell us We are useless but instead makes us useful…….

Even though you are the weakest link in your relationship with God He will never leave. You will not be eliminated. It’s because you are weak that He will use you. You will do incredible things in your weak state because He will cover you. He will give you the wisdom you need, the strength you need……thank God for that. He is amazing.

Rolain

Will you be that friend??


 

 

 

 

 

And her [promised] husband Joseph, being a just and upright man and not willing to expose her publicly and to shame and disgrace her, decided to repudiate and dismiss (divorce) her quietly and secretly.    Matthew 1:19

This is such an inspirational verse and it is one of my favorite scriptures. As I read the scripture this time round relationships came to mind.
In verse 18 we see that Mary was found with child through the power of the Holy Spirit but Joseph didn’t know that. It normal circumstances it meant Mary would be stoned to death. Was Joseph hurt? It could be possible. He had every right to be angry at her and tell everyone what she did but he didn’t……
Instead, he protected her, he covered her. Men, we need to learn to have that same mindset. We need to protect the women in our lives. We need to cover them. But I don’t want to just talk to the men. Let us look at this passage in the context of friends. As friends we need to be there for one another. The word says Joseph was NOT willing to expose her publicly! We need to cover our friends and not expose their faults for the whole world to see. If you see something not adding up in their life then you have a right to confront them but in a way that builds them up.

When you are confronting them or rebuking them do it with the mindset Joseph had. He didn’t want to expose Mary publicly even though it seemed like she slept with another man.
He didn’t want to disgrace and shame her. I would dare to say that his relationship with her was far more important than the “sin” he thought she committed.
Our friends need our support and love. They need us to be transparent and real. They want us to have their back. Will you be that friend?

Rolain

Something really amazing……


Fools make a mock of sin and sin mocks the fools [who are it’s victims; a sin offering made by them only mocks them, bringing them disappointment and disfavor], but among the upright there is the favor of God. Pro 14:9

I would like to focus on the last part of that verse, the part that jumped out to me as I read it.

“But among the upright there is the favor of God’.

Please know His favor surrounds you as you go. His favor guides you in all your goings. Sinners don’t have His favor but you do. Don’t be discouraged. You have the favor of God and because of His favor doors will open, opportunities are realized, dreams come to reality. It’s because of His favor you win, it’s because of His favor the enemy will not be victorious in your life. It’s because of God’s favor that the enemies plans against you are stifled. Because of His favor you have hope. Because of His favor you have a fighting chance. Because of His favor your future is bright.

We have the favor of God…..!!!!!

Please help us understand what that means Lord. Give us a revelation of what having Your favor means. That is my prayer to You Lord……Amen!

Rolain.

He knew all along…..


As I look back at my life I realize how God had a plan for me. There were times when it didn’t seem like it but He had a plan…….

– As a child going through abuse He had a plan for me
– Being told by my teachers I would amount to nothing, He had a plan
– When my family fell apart and got divorced He had a plan
– When I had to move in with my grand mother because of the divorce He had a plan
– On days when I constantly tore myself down (which was all the time) He had a plan for me
– When people laughed at me because I stammered He had a plan
– During times of hopelessness and despair over my future He had a plan

A lot has happened but God has been true. I couldn’t see Him at work through all that at the time but I see now how He kept me alive and safe. He preserved my destiny in spite of how messed up my life was. It’s amazing to think as I was going through all that, God had a plan already planned out for me. When I lost hope and belief in anything good God had something amazing in store for me. I didn’t even know Him for crying out loud but He had something in store for me, when I was in fear of being abused He had a plan for me, when my heart was broken because I thought I was a nobody God knew the plans He had set up for me……And that is what God does. I believe it is just the beginning and I look forward to more.
You might be going through trials and hardships that seem unbeatable but the fact is that God has a plan for you. Your life might be in pieces but know God has a plan for you. You might be abused at home but know God has a plan. You might be in the darkest of  nights in your life but know that God has a plan for you. He has so much in store for you. Don’t give up, don’t quit. He knows who you are and He knows what you are going through……He will never leave you. Don’t believe the lies. Trust in Him.

Rolain

Who doesn’t need counsel…??!!!


We are all on a journey, a journey God has mapped out for us. But for that plan to take shape in our lives there is something we need. For us to be successful and accomplish what God has called us to do it’s important we realize the importance of advisors, counselors, and mentors in our lives. I will not say it is a must have but it is very important.
King David as mighty as he was had counselors.

Jonathan, David’s uncle, a wise and literate counselor, and Jehiel son of Hacmoni were responsible for rearing the king’s sons. 
Ahithophel was the king’s counselor, Hushai the Arkite was the king’s friend. Ahithophel was later replaced by Jehoiada son of Benaiah and by Abiathar. 
Joab was commander of the king’s army.  1 Chronicles 27:33-34

King David surrounded himself and his family with wise people. Even though he was king and even though He had a relationship with God he still had people who he could go to for counsel. This is a lesson for us too. We need to surround ourselves with wise people. We don’t need to be afraid to ask for counsel from people we deem as wise! We were not created to be an island. God created community for a reason.
Surrounding yourself with wise people is a very intentional thing. You have to go out and ask people. You have to humble yourself and go to someone who has been through more and ask for help.

I haven’t got to where I am by myself. There were times I just had no idea what I supposed to do but God brought people in my life who brought clarity to me. Your destiny is about other people and INVOLVES other people. You were not created to be a one man army! Reading the scripture I shared with you was a good reminder for me. If King David needed counselors and he was a man after God’s heart how much more do I need counselors?

Do you have someone who you can go to for advise and counsel from time to time. I don’t think it’s supposed to be all day everyday. God is the first point of call. King David always turned to God first and it seemed as he walked the road God marked out for him, God brought wise men into his life. Like I said in the beginning, having counselors is important. Counselors and advisors come in many forms these days. There is nothing that states your counselor or advisor must be someone who lives in the same area as you or must be someone who you can talk to face to face or must be the same colour or age or gender! Ask God to show you why certain people are in your life! Don’t limit yourself. One of my mentors is dead. I learn from him through the material he has left behind. Another counselor of mine lives on another continent who I have never met face to face! God wants you to accomplish your destiny. To make sure you accomplish it God sends you people to help. We just need to be humble enough to admit we need help and ask for help. God will not leave you alone.

Rolain