I had a thought the other day about my blog. I have rarely written anything
about dating. I have written a few posts here and there but nothing really substantial
about this very important piece of my life. It’s what I pray about constantly and talk to
God about. It’s an area I struggle trusting God in. If there is one thing I have
realized when it comes to finding the one, it’s we as people have no control over who we are to be with.
What I mean is God is the one directing us and guiding us in our relationships. He is involved
In the choosing process, it’s not just us. If it was up to me only I would of being married by now,
I would of chosen someone and that would have been that. But that is not the case for me. God has
really used this area of my life to teach me to trust in Him wholeheartedly! That is what I believe and
that is what I have experienced. This won’t apply to everyone. We are all unique and God works
differently in all our lives.
What is your point you might be asking??? Please bear with me a little longer. I am getting there….
I had a great week last week. It was great because God spoke to me about grace. I have always
known what grace is but last week was different. I got a whole new perspective on grace. But with
that perspective certain areas of my life were highlighted. The area of dating and relationships
was one of the areas that were highlighted in my life.
Let me explain. I have always prided myself in the values I have been taught concerning dating.
– I have never dated in my life ever!
– I have never kissed anyone passionately (That honor will go to my wife)!
– I signed a covenant of chastity even.
There are others but this post is not about what my values are and getting the praise but about
what God showed me. These are the things that made me proud and even conceited. Because of the
values I had I thought I could dictate who I wanted. God, I want this kind of woman and she must
be that and and and………
I am so ashamed writing this because I was seriously misguided. This is not how God works.
One of the things I prided myself in……
But what matters is God’s grace!
Last week He showed me how getting a wife was not because of all the things I had done,
and the high standards I had and the values I believed in but because of His grace!
It is because of His grace that I will find the One. It won’t be because of my intelligence and
how holy I appear to be and how together I try to be but it will be because of His grace!!!!
This is one area He will get the glory! He wants the glory in every aspect of our lives.
When I realized this I was dumbfounded. How could I have not seen this?
Please understand me here, keeping yourself pure and all those other decisions about purity
you have made or should make are important. But those things need to be done to glorify God.
I had that intension when I first started out but it changed some where. It became about me
some where down the line.I will meet the woman God has for me because of His grace. I won’t
have anything to add on and say to God “but it’s because I did this or that…..no!”
That is how amazing God’s grace is. His grace extends to every other area of our lives and not just in
Will you lean fully on His grace? Don’t rely on what you have done or what you can do and and and….
Rely on His grace!