Learning a few important things in my season of singleness!


There are a lot of single people out there who are anxious,

depressed, fearful and a whole lot of other things about their


And there are a lot of single people who are not maximizing their

season of singleness but I want to address that today. As a single

person myself I know the struggle. There is so much we go

through but I want to tell you there is more…..

Singleness is not meant to be wasted on worrying about who

we are going to marry. There is so much more to singleness

than that. God knows who you will marry. You can trust Him

friends. He has got this!


If singleness is not supposed to be spent worrying about who we

are to marry then what is it for??

After all, singleness like marriage was created by God.


Singleness is a great time to work on you!

Don’t wait till you get married to work on yourself. Start now!


Have you got a vision for your life?

Is your relationship with God where you want it to be be?

Are you living a life of purity in thought and deed?


Do you have a vision for your life?

If not, this is the time to seek the Lord.

Men, this falls on you more because one day you will lead your

family. How can you lead if you have no vision for your life?

Having a vision for your life is not a one day gig. It takes time,

it takes patience, it takes being faithful with what God has put

in your hands, it takes faith, it takes getting on your knees

and seeking the Lord, it takes sacrifice.


How can we paint singleness as this boring stale season when

there is so much to learn, so much potential to grow, so much

discovering! Everything that comes from God is good so how can

singleness be bad??


Singleness has its challenges but so does marriage.


Is your relationship with God where you want it to be? 

Seek the Lord with everything within you in your singleness!

Chase after God when you single! Seek Him, pursue Him!

This is the time you discover who you are in God.

Your identity and worth should be in God alone and not a man or


A man dear sister will not complete you.

A woman dear brother will not complete you.

God is the only one that makes you whole. He is the one

who will complete you.

In your singleness learn this truth.

Rely on the Lord, run to Him, trust Him!


Are you living a life of purity in thought and deed?

What a challenge this is. But it’s a challenge to accept!

The world has made it crystal clear that there is no place

in it for purity!

It’s no longer honorable to be a virgin

People look at you funny if you haven’t dated

If you are dating it’s not cool to be with one person!

Kiss whoever you want, have sex with whoever you want, watch

whatever you want, think however you want, it’s

cool says the world. Do what you feel, it’s your life!


But that’s not God’s standard. He says if we even think

lustfully, we have sinned.

As He is is holy we must be holy. (He wasn’t suggesting, He was


Treat the young girls like your sisters and the older women

like your mothers!

The standard is high friends!

Like vision, living a life of purity is not a one day gig.

It is a life time thing.

It’s never too late to live a life of purity. When you fall keep

getting back up. I will admit the fight has become more intense,

more brutal. But we have to keep fighting to live a pure life.

I have fallen numerous times but I keep getting up.

Let’s live a life of purity in our singleness.


By now, I hope you are beginning to see how important your

season of singleness is.

It’s an exciting time of discovering who you are in God,

hearing from God, engaging the enemy, learning

new things.

Life doesn’t start when you get married, it starts now when

you are single.


We need God in our singleness. We need God in our marriages!

We need God period!


You have a decision to make for those of you who are


You can make a decision to have the best time of your life

in your singleness or you can remain worried and stressed about

something God has already dealt with. He has got this!

He knows exactly who you are going to marry.

Bring your anxiety to Him. Let Him carry your burdens.

There is so much more we need to be doing now in this


What will you decide??

God bless you friends



God and the MasterChef judge….!!


I need to confess something to you guys. I love watching

MasterChef Australia. I don’t know if it’s because I used to work

in a restaurant or it’s because I love food. The fact remains, I love

it. So I was watching an episode the other day where three

contestants where in a pressure test.

For those of you who don’t watch MasterChef and have no idea

what a pressure test is let me explain. The chefs who cook the

three worst dishes of that week go into what is called a

“pressure test”. Whoever loses that cook off will be eliminated

from the competition. So as you can imagine it’s pretty hectic.

Anyway, let me continue my story. There I was watching the

three contestants in the pressure test and the judges and special

guest came over to one of the contestants to check on what they

were doing but the contestant was confused, like blank, no idea

what the heck was going on. Instead of trying to help the

contestant the judges and special guest moved on to the next



I am going somewhere with this, please bear with me.


After the judges moved on I believe God spoke to me in that

instant. “I don’t do that” was what I heard. At that time

that was exactly what I needed to hear!

You see, I have been dealing with a certain issue and it’s been

hard. I have been figuring out what to do. I have been trying to

look for another way. I lost my peace at times, got worried

and beat myself up.

I never asked Him for help because to be honest, I am the one

that caused the problem in the first place. So I thought He didn’t

want to help me. (crazy right!)


Anyway, back to MasterChef, the judges left and that thought

came to me. I felt God saying He is not like those judges. He

isn’t on the sidelines watching us.

The judges could have easily helped the contestant but because

of the rules of the competition they didn’t.

But I felt God saying He is not like them. Because He is God

He wants to help. God is not bound by rules. He loves us so

much and doesn’t like seeing us stressed and worried.

He wants to come and help us when we are confused, when

we have no idea what the answer is.

Don’t make the same mistake I made then. When you

are in trouble  call to Him. He doesn’t want to be a spectator

in your game (life)

He wants to be in the thick of things with you helping you, guiding

you and directing you. You don’t have to keep fighting alone.

Call out to Him because He will come and help get you out of

the mess you are in!



When everything is crumbling and failing…….


“God is our refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to 

temptation], a very present and well-proved help in trouble. 

Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change

and though the mountain be shaken into the midst of the 


Though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble

at its swelling and tumult. Selah [pause, and calmly think of 


Psalm 46:1-3


That is what we are going to do. We are going to pause and

think about what this scripture means for us in these trying


This scripture properly describes the times we are in now.

Things are being shaken, things are crumbling and falling.

Nothing is stable anymore.

You can’t help but feel that things could just come to a standstill

at any moment.

With all that instability, how does a person live?

How do we survive in such circumstances?


The word has the answer.


“God is our Refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to 

temptation], a very present and well-proved help in trouble.”

Psalm 46:1


In the face of such instability and uncertainty we don’t need to

panic. The Lord is our Refuge and Strength!

He is the only way we will survive this chaos.

If we look to man, a government and anything else beside

God for an answer we will fail.

Everything that is not founded on God will fail, that’s a fact!


No matter how crazy things get don’t fear. God is with you…..

Be encouraged friends.

He is our Refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to

temptation]! A well proved help in trouble…..





He knows your name……

“So he ran on ahead and climbed up in a sycamore tree in 

order to see Him, for He was about to pass that way. 

And when Jesus reached the place, He looked up and said 

to him, Zacchaeus, hurry and come down; for I must stay 

at your house today. “

Luke 19:4, 5


I read this passage of scripture during the weekend and was left

in awe.

This story is so familiar but there is a deep truth in it.

We forget that Jesus never met Zacchaeus!

All Zacchaeus wanted to do was see Him. (Luke 19:3)

Zacchaeus was the chief tax collector. I highly doubt he

was a christian. (read Luke 19:7)


“What’s the deep truth”, you might be asking?


“And when Jesus reached the place, He looked up and said to

him, Zacchaeus, hurry and come down; for I must stay at your

house today. ” (emphasis mine)

Luke 19;5


Jesus called Zacchaeus by name! He knew exactly who he


No one told Jesus who he was. He

didn’t research “top tax collectors in Jericho”!  🙂

That should give us hope friends.


Like Zacchaeus, your name is known. Jesus knows you!

There is no such thing as a statistic in God’s eyes. We are ALL

important and precious in His eyes!

You may have lived by another truth all your life but the real

truth is Jesus knows who you are by name! No matter who you are

He knows you. No matter the things you have done, He knows

you and longs for you to turn to Him!

Come to Him as you are.


Jesus came to save the people of the world.

A lot of people think He came to make the righteous

better but that’s not it. He came to save the world. He came

to save the lost.

The righteous are not better than everyone else. We are broken

people who realized we needed a Savior.


“And Jesus said to him, Today is [Messianic and spiritual]

salvation come to [all the members of] this household, since

Zacchaeus too is a [real spiritual] son of Abraham; 

For the Son of Man came to seek and to save that which was

lost. “

Luke 19:9, 10


Friend, remember this truth, He knows your name!



The inside job!



“So observe and practice all they tell you; but do not do

what they do, for they preach, but do not practice. “

Matthew 23:3


Jesus was speaking to the multitudes and his disciples about the

Pharisees. The things they did were so crazy.


“Now Jesus turned to address His disciples, along with the

crowd that had gathered with them.

The religion scholars and Pharisees are competent teachers in

God’s law. You won’t go wrong in following their teachings on

Moses. But be careful about following them.

They talk a good line, but they don’t live it. They don’t take it

into their hearts and live it out in their behavior. It’s all

spit-and-polish veneer.


Their lives are perpetual fashion shows, embroidered prayer

shawls one day and flowery prayers the next.

They love to sit at the head table at church dinners, basking

in the most prominent positions, preening in the radiance

of public flattery, receiving honorary degrees, and getting

called ‘Doctor’ and ‘Reverend’.”

Matthew 23:1-9


They were all about the outward man. They

wanted to be seen, they wanted to be respected, and a whole

heap of other things but they missed something very

important – the inner man. They were not interested about who

they were on the inside. Let me share a scripture with you that

will bring more understanding of what I am saying,


“You’re blessed when you get your inside world-your mind and 

heart-put right. 

Then you can see God in the outside world.”

Matthew 5:8


How much time are you putting into working on the inner man?

How much time are you putting into changing the way you think?

How much time are you putting into developing your character?

How much time and effort are you putting into loving God with

all of you?

The Pharisees focused on the wrong things.

Because of that they missed Jesus.

If we are to grow in our relationship with God we need to take

more time focusing on the inner man.

We need to be real with ourselves about who we are and bring

it to Jesus. Where is your heart? Where is your mind?

Are you becoming like Christ daily?

Let’s not make the same mistake the Pharisees made.

Let’s get the inside man right first.



What’s the point of being in a position of power and influence

but you lie, cheat, steal, tear down people, and gossip??

Who are you helping if you have all the money in the

world but are rude, arrogant, brash, cruel, angry

all the time, unloving, uncaring and so on???


Let’s take more time working on the inner man. You are blessed

when you do that.

Bless you friends






What I spoke in trouble…..



“I believed (trusted in, relied on, and clung to my God), 

and therefore I have spoken [even when I said], I am greatly

afflicted. “

Psalm 116:10


Whatever you are believing for speak out.

Even in the most difficult of situations speak out what

you believing for.

The key is to always speak out what you trusting God for no

matter how impossible it seems.

Easier said than done. (it’s such a fight to speak out what God

has put in your heart)

Don’t let the circumstances around you silence you.

Open your mouth and speak.

As you believe, speak!

God bless you friends!



He cares about purpose.


“Those who had seen it told them how the man who had been demon-possessed had been healed.

Then all the people of the country of the Gerasenes and the surrounding district asked Him to leave them, because they were overwhelmed with fear. So Jesus got into the boat and returned [to the west side of the Sea of Galilee].

But the man from whom the demons had gone out kept begging Him, pleading to go with Him; but Jesus sent him away, saying,

 “Return home and tell [about] all the great things God has done for you.” So the man went away, proclaiming throughout the whole city what great things Jesus had done for him.

Luke 8:36-39


The man who had been delivered begged Jesus to take him

but Jesus said no! What an asset he could of been

if he had gone with Jesus. What a testimony he had but Jesus

said no! The man was just beginning to get to know the Savior

and he would know so much more if he had gone with him

but Jesus said no!


It might be hard to understand but this is what the man

had been born for. He was to declare the great things the Lord

had done in his life and he did. Jesus cared about the man’s

destiny and wanted him to accomplish it!


“But the man from whom the demons had gone out kept begging Him, pleading to go with Him; but Jesus sent him away, saying, “Return home and tell [about] all the great things God has done for you.” So the man went away, proclaiming throughout the whole city what great things Jesus had done for him.”

Luke 8:38, 39


Jesus wanted the man to accomplish his purpose. He wasn’t

being cruel. He knew what would happen if the man obeyed

and stayed. A lot of people would have their lives changed forever!

A lot of people would get to know Jesus through the

man’s testimony! That was his purpose. That’s why he had to stay!



Let’s bring it home.

Jesus has a purpose for you and He wants you to

accomplish it.

A lot of people will be saved when you do what He has created you

to do and a lot of people will get to know Him because of the great

things He has done in your life.

As I end I want to leave you with a thought,

are you walking in what God has purposed you to do? People

lives are going to be changed as you do…….


Bless you









A father’s faith??


“And blessed (happy, to be envied) is she who believed that 

there would be a fulfillment of the things that were spoken

to her from the Lord.” 

Luke 1:45


Do you believe that EVERYTHING God promised you will

come to pass?

Mary was called blessed because she believed God would

fulfill everything He promised her.


Things didn’t go too well for Zechariah, John’s father. He

didn’t believe the words of an angel who had been sent by God.

He didn’t think God could accomplish what He promised.


“Now behold, you will be and will continue to be silent and 

not be able to speak till the day when these things take place, 

because you have not believed what I told you; 

but my words are of a kind which will be fulfilled in the 

appointed and proper time.” 

Luke 1:20 


I think there was more to Zechariah being silenced. Yes, he

didn’t believe the words of the angel but I think there was

an additional reason.

I think it was to Zechariah’s benefit he was silenced. I believe

he would of talked himself out of faith in God. Because he

didn’t believe, he would have spoken about how impossible

God’s promise seemed.

As we believe in the Lord we need to watch how we speak.

Our words have power and they can do some real damage if

not checked.


What God promises He brings to pass.


“And listen! Your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also 

conceived a son, and this is now the sixth month with her

who was called barren.

For with God nothing is ever impossible and no word from 

God shall be without power or impossible of fulfillment. ” 

Luke 1:36, 37


Today, I am challenging you to believe what the Lord has

promised you will come to pass. It will be fulfilled.

I am challenging me too…….


As Mary was blessed because she believed God would fulfill

what He promised her so it is with you and me. You are blessed

when you believe!


Zechariah had time to reflect on what he did. Look at what

happened when he was able to speak again,


“And at once his mouth was opened and his tongue loosed, and

he began to speak, blessing and praising and thanking God.”

Luke 1: 64


Was that how he was supposed to respond the first time he

heard the promise?


What are you speaking in this season of waiting for the

promise to be fulfilled? Are you talking yourself out of faith?

Are you blessing, praising and thanking the Lord??


I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to watch your

words. God will fulfill His promise to you but your negative

words can disqualify you.

Just recently I was the one speaking negatively. But a friend

brought me back to the right place…..faith. Thank God for a

friend like that. My faith was ignited again as I was reminded

of the truth I am sharing with you.


God will fulfill everything He promised you friend.

He won’t abandon you. He won’t leave you stranded.


You are blessed when you believe God will fulfill all He has

promised you…..Amen!












Take responsibility for your life……



Hi everyone!

I have a question I would like to ask you?

Are you responsible?

I would guess the majority of you if not all of you would say yes.

I too would like to think I am responsible. I pay my bills, I make

sure everything that is supposed to be working is working.

So to sum it up I think I am quite responsible.

But something happened a few days ago to make me question

that. Let me tell you about it…..


A few days ago…..


A friend asked me to go with him to get his car looked at by a

mechanic. My friend had a mechanic but he wanted a second opinion

hence his trip to a second mechanic.

The news wasn’t good. The mechanic told my friend about other

problems that needed immediate attention. The mechanic asked

my friend a few questions about some of the problems. From the

mechanic’s point of view some of the problems could of been

avoided if my friend took a little more interest in his car.

My friend defended himself. He told the mechanic he wasn’t good

with cars and didn’t understand them. That is why he had a

mechanic in the first place.

The mechanic asked him about another problem but my friend

had no clue how to answer.

Ever time he was asked something he would blame the mechanic.


After we left my friend and I started talking.

We drew a few crucial conclusions from what just happened.


Responsibility and accountability.

My friend didn’t know anything about cars but that didn’t mean

he had to give up responsibility to his mechanic. By doing that

he was giving up accountability. He was no longer accountable

for his car because he had given the responsibility to his mechanic

and that is why he had no answers for the second mechanic.

Crazy right!


Let me me take it a bit further. We do this in life.

It goes something like this,


I can’t be all that God wants me to be in my country because

of what’s going on. The government is not giving me opportunities

to succeed.


It’s my parents fault that I am where I am. They never let me do



My pastor never singles me out. If he did I would do better!


And so so on and so on……


We need to take responsibility for our lives.

God is our Lord and He wants us to take responsibility of our

lives. That’s why we have the Holy Spirit. He doesn’t want us giving

away responsibility to anyone else.

Remember, when you give someone else responsibility say for example

to succeed, you automatically give up accountability to that person.


It’s good to have mentors, coaches, pastors and teachers but they

are not responsible for who you will become. They have a say in it but

not the final say. You are the one who decides!

It has to start with you. You are the one who must take responsibility.

You are accountable for your life and no other man.

There is only one person qualified to be responsible for you

and that’s Jesus!


As I close I would like you to think about your life.

Have you given up responsibility for it to a system, government, or


The only person you should be surrendering to is Jesus. He has an

amazing plan for your life. He created it!!!  Apart from Him there

is no one else you should be surrendering to. I am not talking about

revolting against leadership or refusing to learn from people.

That’s not what I am saying.

I am challenging you to take responsibility for your life.

You decide to learn, you decide to work hard, to go deeper into God, to

be all that God has for you. You do that. Don’t wait for someone

to come and do those things for you.


Bless you friends….




When my faith is weak.

he will make a way

“As He came near Jericho, it occured that a blind man was

sitting by the roadside begging.

And hearing a crowd going by, he asked what it meant.

They told him, Jesus of Nazareth is passing by. 

And he shouted, saying, Jesus, Son of David, take pity

and have mercy on me!

But those who were in front reproved him, telling him to

keep quiet;

yet he screamed and shrieked so much the more, Son of

David, take pity and have mercy on me!”

Luke 18: 35-39


I needed to be reminded of this story today.

There is something

I need to get done soon and I thought I had put my faith

in God concerning this “thing” but I was wrong.

This “thing” I am trusting God for is big and it has a time

limit on it.

I thought I was trusting God but in my heart I had already

made a decision.

In my heart I had told myself God wasn’t going to answer my

prayer! I know…..crazy!


But this morning in my quiet time God used the scripture I

shared to speak to me.

The blind man was told Jesus was passing by.

But when he shouted out for Jesus attention the crowd

reproved him and tried to silence him.

The crazy thing is this, they knew the man was blind. If there

was anyone that needed a miracle that day it was the blind man

but the crowd tried to keep him silent. They didn’t want him to

see again! That’s cold…..!


I didn’t know it at the time but I was the blind man. I had

a need I was looking to God for but there were voices telling me

to give it up. The voices told me I wasn’t going to get what I

requested. I would rather not pray and pursue God for what

I needed. Dissapointment was sure I heard. The voices

were subtle.

I thought I was trusting God but there were

all these other things going on.


I don’t know how it happened but I let unbelief and doubt

sneek in. They corroded my faith and I didn’t even know it.

But like the blind man I must not give in to the negative

voices around me.

Those voices are not of God.

I can’t throw in the towel.

Yes, it seems impossible

Yes, I have nothing in my hands at the moment

Yes, there doesn’t seem to be an answer but…….


God will come through. He won’t let me down.


The blind man screamed and shrieked for his healing.

He refused to be silenced by the voices.


That’s faith!


You may be in my shoes but I want to assure you that God

is faithful. Don’t give in to the negative voices. Don’t be rational.

Faith is anything but rational.

You must fight to stay in faith.

Because in the end God will come through for you.


As I end I would like you to think about something with me.


Are you still walking in faith or have you succumb to the

voices telling you why that “thing” won’t happen?

Have you listened to the lies that say, God will not answer

your prayer so stop praying and stop believing, just give up?


Take a bit of time to reflect on those questions. Allow the Lord

to show what’s really happening.


God bless you friends!